Antenatal/postnatal depression
My mental health has taken a battering
Emtaboo · 27/02/2022 17:48
Hi there
Not sure if any of you ladies have had similar experiences. Do any of you feel depressed due to your situation rather than actual post natal depression? I have a 14 week old. My mother passed away while I was pregnant and I’m finding that very hard to begin with. The house my partner and I live in is being renovated by him. He does it for a living. He told me the house would be ready by the time the baby came and it wasn’t. As it’s still like a building site, I’ve been staying with his parents. They’ve been great and will look after the little one for me to do work some days etc. We’ve always got on. My partner has to stay in our home with the dog as he needs someone with him. I feel like we’ve spent no time together as a family. He calls over some nights in the week and we try and go places on the weekend, but it’s not the same. I feel like I’ve had to deal with everything and as a first time mother, I worry I am being judged about my decisions. I don’t know if I can ever forget this time when I feel so low with a new baby and been left in this position. It’s not about money. It’s my home and I’ve offered to pay him to finish the house.
DeliaOwens · 27/02/2022 18:11
Hi OP. I'm sorry you are low about your situation. If your DP promised your home would be ready for baby coming home, and baby is now 14 weeks and place is still not done...what is the new timeline,? Do you want to get to your own place or do you like the support at your in-laws?
When you have a baby, it is an abrupt and confusing change physically and emotionally. You are dealing with distance from your partner and are (it seems) doing the lions share of baby stuff. When does he expect to play a bigger part in your baby's life.
I think the not knowing is playing havoc with your thought process. I would have found it very overwhelming not being in my own space.
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