Pregnant + anxious/depressed - HELP
xFTM2022x · 13/01/2022 18:11
Never posted before but I’ve been reading posts on here for a few weeks and they always make me feel a lot better and I feel like I need help.
I’m 26, in an amazing relationship, house, good job etc and I’m currently 9+3 weeks with a much welcomed suprise. Up until 8 weeks I was in a bubble of total happiness and was so so excited for our little family. Then week 8 hit…I wouldn’t say I felt low as such, just a little neutral with all the sickness, tiredness etc. Then came week 9 and everything seems to have taken a total nosedive. I’ve never felt so terrified, out of control and almost trapped. Symptoms feel worse - nausea, fatigue, headaches and my whole body just aches. I’ve battled with my mental health for years, Spring 2021 was the worst it’s ever been and after going back on medication and going through therapy, things were ALOT better when we found out we were pregnant. But this anxiety feels different, I feel so low, more so than I’ve ever felt before. I’m not even sure if I’m feeling anxiety or depression. I’m terrified of all these changes that are going to happen to my body that I have absolutely no control of. I’m terrified of giving birth after some lovely friends told me the most horrific stories (thanks guys). I know the end result will be amazing but I can’t help with these intrusive thoughts of ‘what have i done’ ‘will i be a good mum’ ‘can i handle this’. I don’t feel as though I can talk to my family because they’re all so excited and they know I wanted this. I just ball to my boyfriend and then feel so guilty that I’m putting a dampener on his excitment. I don’t want to face work, I don’t want to leave the house. I am at a total loss. My first midwife appointment is next week so I’ll definitely talk to them about it.
Is this just my hormones or is this antenatal depression? Has anyone else felt like this around the 9 week mark and it passed? Can anyone offer any advice? I’d love to hear from anyone else in the same boat
Hmum0fthree · 13/01/2022 18:19
@xFTM2022x Definitely speak to your midwife only she can help get it diagnosed but it is also very normal to feel like this, I've had 2 children and my second labour & delivery was great but things went tits up after the placenta was delivered, now pregnant with my 3rd and think I cried most days until 16 weeks when my consultant reassured me everything was going to be ok, having someone who knows everything reassure you will really help.
We are lead to believe as women when we get pregnant it should all be rainbows and fairy's but unfortunately for some of us it can be very overwhelming, I am 25 weeks now and feeling a lot better but still have my days (like today) when I wake up feeling completely overwhelmed for no reason!
Here if you need a chat
xFTM2022x · 13/01/2022 18:27
Thanks so much for replying. Sorry to hear you're not feeling great either. That's exactly it and why I'm struggling to speak to anyone about it. I'm going to definitely speak to the midwife next week and see if there's anything they can do. I just hope and pray this starts to ease off as I get to the second trimester. I so want to enjoy my first pregnancy x
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