Missed miscarriage

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I've got for my 12 week scan today and I've had a missed miscarriage. All the years of trying and I'm heartbroken

They've also found a mass on my cervix measuring 2cm x 1cm

I'm numb

I'm so sorry. I've had 5 miscarriages, but only one pregnancy where I've been able to have scans. I don't think anything ever prepares you that it might be bad news. I passed my previous losses stage and naively went in for my 'reassurance' scan at 7 weeks thinking everything was going to be ok. Baby was measuring behind way behind in fact and all that was visible was the sac and they told me I'd probably got my dates wrong. I hadn't I knew the date we'd conceived. I went back in 2 weeks later and this time I was able to see something but there wasn't a heartbeat. Told it was just too early to see it. I also had a SCH but was told any bleeding would more than likely be the blood clot dispersing and not to panic. Booked in for a re scan 7-10 days later. I started spotting a few days after that scan. Had the follow up scan and was told that although our Baby had grown and measuring correct now there wasn't a heartbeat and Baby had dropped right onto my cervix. I didn't actually pass Baby for a further 5 weeks though. That Baby would've been 14 months old on Wednesday. We had another loss back in March although this time I was only a matter of weeks

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby I'm so sorry

I should be 11 weeks but I went for an early reassurance scan too today Nan was told it died at 7 weeks 1 day. I'm so numb.

I wanted this so bad. I'm 38 and my clock is ticking

Oh I’m so sorry OP, nothing can prepare you for the shock when you think everything’s okay! I had a mmc at 14 weeks after a couple of other early miscarriages and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, although things got a lot better after I had actually miscarried. The first few days waiting around were the worst part. I personally found the actual process of miscarrying very cathartic and felt a lot better when that was over. Have they discussed options with you about how to manage it?

You still have time I know a lot of people who’ve had babies well into their 40s but I know it doesn’t help you now when you are grieving this baby. for you I know it seems so cruel.

@Flippanty thank you.

I've got an appointment with the gynaecologist on Tuesday and we go from there. I'm a bit worried about the mass they found on my cervix, it sounds quite big

Fingers crossed you get some answers on Tuesday, I’m sure it must all feel very surreal.

I think it's starting to come out now but I'm unsure. It's like a like brown discharge.

I had an internal scan at 6 week 5 days and it died a couple of days later. Could that be the reason?

God love you OP, it’s so so hard! That will absolutely have had nothing to do with it, internal scans are very safe, even safer than a normal ultrasound so don’t worry about that.