Hi everyone, hoping for some advice from someone who may have been in a similar position...
My new son has just turned 2 weeks old and I’ve been having ups and downs since he was born, and looking back since I was pregnant actually. After a miscarriage last year I was so excited to get pregnant again straight away, the first few months of pregnancy were great. Then I started to get anxiety - my husband and I couldn’t agree a name we liked which was so simple for our first son - and this started to panic me. Then I worried about how my first son would adapt and although I wanted him to have a sibling I worried it would upset the balance of our very happy life as a three. I also worried I couldn’t possibly love another child as much as I love my first son because he is perfect and I really do dote on him, have the minute since he was born.
Now I’ve had my second son and the first 2 weeks of his life haven’t been good. I’m not happy with his name, have spent the last 2 weeks trying to pick the one but can’t find any which feel right - my husband has now offered to use my original favourite which he wasn’t keen on to try and help pull me out of this but that doesn’t feel right either. No idea what to do there.
I don’t know if the name thing is fuelling the other issues or vice verse but now I’m starting to feel a bit indifferent and disconnected from my newborn. It really doesn’t help that we’re only calling him the baby but don’t want to confuse my eldest if I’m not settled on his name. Any advice would be great. I feel terrible for my husband as this is supposed to be a happy time and I can tell it’s bringing him down now too when we were all so happy before :(