15 weeks and changed my mind..

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TW help...

Is 15 weeks too late to have an abortion especially everyone knows you are now pregnant?

We have a nearly 5 year old and I was very against it. I came off the pill to see what would happen as I felt like it could take some time which I could possibly think about it. However it took a week to fall pregnant.

I’ve had many emotions, excited, happy, sad, confused, scared.

I don’t think I’m ready. I don’t have a lot of friends or family that I see often and my partner is often working and I’m alone and the thought of doing it alone again petrifies me.

I can’t get the thought of abortion out of my head and I feel like I have nobody to turn to or let out my thoughts to.

My partners just gone away for a few weeks for work and I’m sat here with guilt and can’t even say anything as I’m petrified of what he will say and obviously don’t want to distract him like that.

My head feels like it’s going to explode and I don’t know what to do 😭😭😭

No nasty comments please this was hard enough to post 😪😪😪😪😪

No, it's not too late. Abortions can be carried out up to 24 weeks but obviously the earlier the better if thats what you want.

I would say it's really important to talk to your partner if you can. Talk through your concerns and worries honestly and openly. Once it's done, you can't take it back so you need to be 100% it's the right thing for you and your family.

Best of luck xx

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No, it's not too late. Abortions can be carried out up to 24 weeks but obviously the earlier the better if thats what you want.

I would say it's really important to talk to your partner if you can. Talk through your concerns and worries honestly and openly. Once it's done, you can't take it back so you need to be 100% it's the right thing for you and your family.

Best of luck xx

Thankyou for your reply.

How do I talk to him now he's gone? He's doing training for work and he's back on the weekend however I'm scared I'm going to distract him from what he needs to do...

I feel so lost 😪

Could you facetime him or call him?

If my partner felt this way; regardless of what I was doing, I would rather them call me. I would hate the thought of them being in turmoil. Nothing is more important than your family.

You could also speak with your GP who could also possibly sign post you to other organisations to help you make your decision.

Why did you take the risk if this is what could happen? Sorry OP but you chose to roll the dice.

It's natural to feel fear, regret etc, I felt like this with both my very planned pregnancies, you could perhaps have antenatal depression, I'm convinced I did. Aborting now, when in fact it could be a few weeks, it's so far along, the trauma of that doesn't bear thinking about.
I think you should speak to a mental health midwife, talk through your fears, I wouldn't be without either of my children they've made my life so completely wonderful. Please be kind to yourself, abortion is not the only answer

Talk to your midwife ASAP