Husband post natal depression

[SophieLF6]

Hello
I had my baby girl 5 weeks ago and I’m
Feeling good and she is doing well but I’m actually worried about my husband and concerned that he might have post natal depression. He is a wonderful husband but I think he is struggling with a connection, he says he hates feeding her and gets frustrated when she cries. He seems disconnected and says he misses us time. He sleeps in a different bed during the week as has a stressful job , and when he is in with us doesn’t do anything to help really. It’s just making me feel like I’m doing this by myself and I am worrying about him. I love being a mummy and just want him to love her as much as me. Does anyone have any advice?

I don't believe PND as such applies to men as it is triggered by hormonal stresses. Your DH just seems to be unable to cope with life with a small baby. Very annoying for you as you need support and not have to waste energy on a man child when you have a little life to nurture.

All I'd suggest is you talk about his real feelings. It doesn't seem he is on board with becoming a family. If he really is depressed and not just feeling pushed out (common) then maybe he should talk to a counsellor or see his GP?

I find men behave like this because they are jealous or feel pushed out.