Newborn and feel weird at night

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I have a 3 week old baby and during the day she settles in her crib... i have blinds open TV on and generally feel OK getting on with housework etc... when night time comes I get this depression feeling which doesnt disappear until the sun comes back up at around 6am...Is this normal? Also only getting 4 hours sleep a day when my partner takes over as I find it impossible too sleep when she sleeps as she is always unsettled at night ... is it normal to live on 4 hours sleep a day at this stage and has anyone else felt this weird alone depression feelinget at night?

Hello!

I was also like this with my newborn and became very teary at night, I didn't know why but each day I would dread the nights coming and feel really anxious. It did eventually pass for me around week 10. At the start I was also not sleeping a lot at night and I found it impossible to sleep during the day but it does eventually get better :)

Definitely normal, I hated nighttime’s as hyper aware I wouldn’t get much sleep which stopped me sleeping (productive!). It was like a feeling of dread.
To be honest it didn’t go away until my kids slept through the night (& my 3 year old didn’t until he was 2!)

Hey

I'm not sure if you're still following this thread OP but I came across it and wanted to post because I'm also in the same place.

It's currently 4.45am and I'm wide awake, I can relate to the dreading night time. I'm not really sure why it's happening but I feel quite aware that I'm alone during the night because my partner is sleeping etc even though it's the same when he's at work. Then suddenly feel a weight lift from me when it's day time again. Are you feeling any better? If you are, what did you do differently? My LO is only 6 weeks old and a contented little baby so far. It's me that's struggling to sleep.

Hope you're doing ok!

I had this for a while with my DD, I used to feel terrified and highly anxious when the sun was going down and knowing I had a sleepless night ahead of me. My partner and I would high five when the sun came up and say "we made it through another night and we can hear people, we aren't alone!". The feeling eventually went when she started sleeping more but it took months for me to calm my anxiety afterwards. Give your GP a call if you're feeling depressed at all.

Hope things are a bit brighter OP. I always find a build up of lack of sleep leads to me feeling very low, even without all the new baby emotions and hormones.

I've got a 5 week old and feel exactly the same, very teary on a nighttime, my husband is sleeping in other room as he has a very manual job and i don't want him to be tired and hurt himself but it's so hard getting up and having to feed on a night alone, in the day it's fine but as you say night is different.

So glad to hear other mums are feeling this too my baby is 5 weeks and my partner has got a physical job so I do the night feeds so he's not exhausted and hurts himself but does feel so much more lonely and finding its making me anxious and upset too,hoping its just hormones and getting use to this new routine and life...hoping it will pass

@Saz1990 my LG is now 5 months old and it does get so much easier since I wrote my reply. Of course there are still the odd times when I'm so tired and have a little cry but it feels like such a long time since I wrote my reply and how I felt. You are doing a great job!