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How do you know you're suffering?

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Elliexoxo · 25/07/2020 20:32

Exactly that. PND - how do you know you have it?
My son is nearly 11 months. It's been a rough ride since he's been born. I had a very traumatic labour and delivery, lasted a couple of days only to be rushed into theatre and forceps used. When my son was born he wasn't breathing at all, he was dark purple in colour and lifeless. We had a week long hospital stay whilst he was in NICU, turns out he had pneumonia. When we got home i found out my body rejected my stitches resulting in infection. They told me they don't restitch so was left with a open hole for 3 months whilst it healed. I was on antibiotics the whole time. At 8 weeks old he had sepsis and nearly died again.
He's suffered with his skin for months and months until we finally got told it was severe eczema and got the right treatment after trying what seemed like everything under the sun.
He is a very high needs and demanding baby so it can be very exhausting.
I had CBT to help me get through and process my sons delivery but it didn't really work for me and only time seems to have helped heal that.

I feel so mentally and physically exhausted, I just have no interest in anything at all. My partner has noticed and it's affecting our relationship. I feel sad most of the time. I'm a FTM so not sure if this is just a normal feeling?
People have hardship in their life so why am I any different? Also I feel like because my son is nearly 11 months I can't have PND? Idk.

If you had PND how did you feel? What steps did you take to feel better? Or is this just the reality of being a parent?

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LouiseTrees · 25/07/2020 20:39

I think all parents feel mentally and physically tired but not to the detriment of all other things, ie feeling done in and what’s the point constantly rather than just here and then. It does sound like you have PND. I recommend you see your GP. Re your partner, can they do more to help with the baby so you can go out and regain a singular identity rather than just being “mum”. That’s what I did when I was at my lowest.

Wheresthebiffer2 · 25/07/2020 20:43

Your GP could give you the "Edinburgh Depression Questionaire", which is a tool to rate your current mood.

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