27 weeks pregnant and feeling out of sorts

[EastLondon82]

Hi everyone,

Looking for some advice, I'm 27 weeks pregnant and have been living and working from home with my partner, in our one bedroom flat since March! We are planning on moving house in three weeks time and the past month I feel everything has got on top of me! I find myself getting really stressed and anxious, I get snappy if my boyfriend doesn't tidy up or help cook dinner, and I just feel really trapped and bored, especially as going out/living normal life is so hard at the moment!

I realise I'm probably not great fun to be around at the moment, but my boyfriend can get really pissed off with me when I'm stressed or anxious and it just makes me feel even worse! He goes and sits in the garden and drinks beer and I find myself spending more time alone! I'm trying not to feel sorry for myself, but not really sure what to do! Could this be prenatal depression, or just the stress of the current situation + pregnancy/work and moving stress?

Any help greatly appreciated xxx

Sorry you are feeling rubbish. Antenatal depression is very common and it is worth getting your mood assessed so you can have additional monitoring in case of postnatal depression. You can tell your midwife how you feel, she won't judge you.

Hi there
I can somewhat relate I was also living in a one bedroom flat working from home when I was 27 weeks (I’m 37 now) we also moved to a bigger flat locally but I remember how much work needed to be done and how frustrated I would get at myself for feeling tired or low instead of getting it all done within a day. My husband in the beginning would just ‘leave it for tomrorow’ which kept happening till we’d argue and he’d do some but mainly make it worse. I don’t think it was healthy for me at all mentally and physically I remember taking paracetamols at night just to get over the back pain I had forced on myself by over doing it. A few days before we moved my husband got his brothers round and in a day did more than I managed in the whole 2 weeks leading up - so it all worked out. And left me feeling about stupid at how much pressure I put on myself.

The only advice I can try and give is just don’t focus on the to do lists for a while. Try enjoying the lazy time with your partner even if the niggly thoughts are constantly reminding you to get stuff done. Take some time off work you won’t need all your annual leave with maternity leave coming up so best to use it for times like this, moving whilst pregnant is a good excuse and you’ll need more time. Hopefully spending time without focusing on house/work stuff will help you find a better place with your partner to talk about other stuff maybe take walks and watch a movie.

Best of luck! :)