Antenatal depression - will my baby be fine.

[Mommy1986]

Hi going through depression.. seeing a counsellor.. I'm 15 weeks pregnant and struggling severely day to day. Cry a lot and feel hopeless. I'm terrified my baby is not going to be fine... not sure if I want the baby too coz I'm convinced I can't handle the state I'm in.. already have a 2 and half years old and struggling to take care of her. Only have energy to give her her needs.. feel guilty I can't take her out but she goes to morning school 4 days a week. Husband is doing house work and is juggling with house work, my emotions and his work 9-5. Feel guilty and helpless. Will my baby be fine.. coz I'm always crying.. ?? Should I abort...the thought makes me bad even more... ?!?! Hardly have any friends and i recently met s group of friends but felt even bad coz of my self esteem issues.. always comparing how they figured out things.. why am I like this.. is my daughter better than theirs? Am I taking care of her well?? Is she very thin?? What do I do about all these feelings can I handle one more with these emotions of mine.. is my baby fine... help!!

My 2 and half year old daughter is fine.. she is very active kid.. plays well.. weighs fine but I still worry .. about everything. Im doing the best I can.

Juggling motherhood is difficult and the pregnancy hormones are making you emotional.
Ask to see to mental health midwife in your area, to get some support. It's normal to worry, look at positive birth stories to try to get some perspective. Get some help, hire a doula, or cleaner, or night nanny when baby's here x

Those thoughts - they're all symptomatic of depression. And depression can - and usually does - get better.

It's hell to be in the middle of though. In spite of which, you're meeting all your child's needs.

It'll get better. Keep being honest with your counsellor. And consider that abortion would be a forever solution to a now problem.

Mommy1986 - How are you? I have been where you are currently, in terms of how I felt. I became pregnant with my much wanted second child in October 2018 but due to severe anxiety and depression I terminated at 9 weeks. I regret that decision to this day and still haven't felt able to try again yet due to fear of this happening again. I know it is very hard for you but hang in there if you can. Definitely make an appt with your midwife/doctor asap and tell them how you are feeling, they should refer you to a perinatal team who will be able to help. Are you taking any medication? Setraline is the safest AD to use during pregnancy, I am on this now incase I ever do try again. Please feel free to message me privately if you like, I will try to help xxxx

Hi everyone, I went through the toughest phase during pregnancy, but took help and got medication sertraline Zoloft 50mg and got better with my anxiety and depression a little which helped during pregnancy. And now gave birth to a healthy baby on July 14 during the pandemic! Normal delivery and She is now 2 and half months, heavies fine, and smiles so much at me. I am on Zoloft 100 mg and breast feeding now.. and doing better in years. Thank you so much for all your messages! It helped ❤️

Weighs* fine

@Mommy1986 - how lovely. Well done you what a trooper x

Well done @Mommy1986