Am I depressed or is this normal in early pregnancy?

[loveyourself87]

Hi ladies,

Since finding out I'm pregnant (roughly 7 weeks), I have been in an up and down mood, teary eyed, no excitement for baby, my life, my relationship, sex or anything. I sit on the sofa after work with my bf and we hardly talk, he asks me what's wrong and I just look at him and ask him if he still wants to be with me because he's being quite too! I have. Moments where I feel high, but never for anything to do with the baby, mainly when I've been busy at work and not thinking about being pregnant. I spoke with the midwife yesterday who said it sounds more than pregnancy hormones and that I should speak with GP for extra support! The things is I don't want being pregnant to ruin my relationship with my partner and cast him aside which is exactly what I'm doing, the other day he hugged me and asked me what's wrong and I told him I'm feeling down, emotional, worried and he just said "why don't you have a nap" to which I replied that I'm not tired, he then said "cheer up" which to me is a slap in the face as he didn't want to talk about my feelings! Sorry I'm ranting on and on but I don't want this to ruin my relationship and I'm shit scared that this is depression, I don't have friends here in Bristol (recently moved), we hardly go out, always the same shitting routine of work-home with copious episodes of peaky blinders (love it).. no sex since we conceived(August), shit job, not being treated by him to anything since we got together... 😔

*quiet

Everyone is different. Personally I think pregnancy is really hard and mostly quite unpleasant, and I've spent large proportions of the last few months inwardly wailing "why did no one tell me this (whatever "this" happened to be that day) would happen?". You're not alone in how you feel.

Follow the midwife advice. Go and see your GP. The sooner, the better. I've found in the NHS that you wait to see the GP, easily to get referred, wait to be assessed, wait to be treated. So do it now, don't wait until it all falls apart.

There's a book by Alexandra Sacks called "What No One Tells You" which might be helpful - about the psychological changes that occur during the journey from not-being-a-mother to being-a-mother and its got some practical advice for common situations.

The first trimester came as a hell of a shock to me. It gets better.

That should be "wait to get referred".

@Tableclothing I thought pregnancy would be the best feeling ever, you know? Everyone I know seems to get along with it and there is so much excitement and I almost felt the odd one out for not being happy about this. It isn't easy and I am not enjoying it 70% of the time. I'll have a look at the book you recommended. Xx