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Antenatal/postnatal depression

Pregnancy Loss

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HappyHappySunshine · 21/08/2019 18:18

I miscarried on Tuesday last week and I have been so low in mood since. I feel so alone. My friends who haven't been through a miscarriage seem to say the wrong things which makes me feel so alone. My partner got annoyed when he came home to me crying today. He said I'm getting worse instead of better. How do I pick myself up? I hate feeling like this ๐Ÿ˜“

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leonaaa · 12/09/2019 08:31

Hi,
I had a pregnancy loss last year and it landed me in a really bad state. I went to the doctors and got counselling - I would urge you to do the same. You will be a priority as it is linked to perinatal depression/grief.
I really hope you get through this and that you come out the other end.
You will never not miss your baby, you will never not mourn the life that could have been but you will learn to live with it and motivate you to live your life for them.
Name your baby, if you don't know what gender your baby was then pick one and name your baby. Give it a purpose. Write a letter to your angel baby and express your love for it. A friend bought me a necklace that was a little heart and in it said "a piece of my heart is in heaven" and I even got a subtle tattoo dedicated to my baby boy Sam.
Do things that are for you and help you process and keep his memory alive for you!
People will ignore it and act as though it didn't happen and I'm sorry. I hate that. Teach your friends that you want to talk about it and talk about your angel baby. Teach your partner.
Giving you all the love and positive vibes to get through this

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SoonToBeMrs91 · 23/09/2019 16:47

Hi,
I have suffered an early miscarriage in July and am still struggling sometimes. I know it might not seem like it right now but it does get easier. Give yourself time to grieve hun, it is still really fresh.
People do not mean to upset you, but unless you've been through it yourself you don't know what to say. And even people who have suffered same loss experience it differently.
For first few weeks we were putting a brave face on and pretending everything was fine which hasn't helped.
I'm here if you need to talk to someone hun xx

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Luna2010 · 30/11/2019 20:53

Hi,
I am very sorry for your loss.
I had a miscarriage in May and I have done a lot of reading and thinking since, so I wanted to share some things that helped me;

  • you will be happy again, I promise just please find someone to talk about it with and donโ€™t bottle it up. Maybe a close family member or someone that just listens rather than tries to tell you how to feel or judged.
  • your friends are saying things with your best interest at heart even though they make you feel worse sometimes, try to remember that and select the ones you use to help you get though.
  • it takes time to get over it, it took me two months or so until my emotions got back on track. You have plenty of hormones to deal with so give yourself time.
  • Your partner is probably dealing with the stress too, again try to talk about it when you feel strong and not emotional to help him understand.


Happy to talk if you need someone ๐Ÿค— xx
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