Single and becoming a parent

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my now x... I guess...keeps telling me I'm his worst nightmare and it's the worst thing that could happen to him that I'm having his child

I have 7 weeks to go till due date and I'm struggling to find the happiness and everywhere I look I keep seeing the ideal happy families and it's tearing me up. Is anyone else in the same boat, how are you coping with this

Hi there OP,

We're really sorry - this sounds really tough. We're just giving this a little bump to see if any Mumsnetters can help.

I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant.
I was with my ex partner at the time even though the pregnancy was not planned however he was lying to me and was also still with his ‘ex’.
Shortly after I found out I was pregnant I also found out she was pregnant with his child and there is only around 7 weeks between us.
We have tried to be civil, he keeps coming and going and last week he text to say him and his ex are back together and are working on things. I found out she has had the baby this weekend, I was told by a friend of a friend and not even by him even though we had several exchanged texts earlier today.
I feel like I’m numb and don’t really have any emotion but at the same time I want to break down and cry.
I want my baby here to love and to hold I hate the fact I’m a single parent to be but I know I have to stay strong for my baby.
I think once the baby is born instincts will kick in and nothing else will matter and always remember there’s somebody out there in the same situation and it helps to talk.
💙

Can you ask mumsnet to move this to relationships or lone parents for more traffic? Sounds like you could do with a handhold.

Fwiw I was on my own throughout pregnancy, ex got with another woman, no support given, it really affected my mental health at the time.

Fast forward 6 years and I have a wonderful DD and we have a really great close relationship. You can do this.

Hi, I hope you are feeling better about things now. Perhaps you even have your wonderful bundle already. My situation is different in that my ex is still living here although he regularly tells me he doesn’t love me and I’m too hard to love. I’m feeling very anxious. He won’t be at the birth (my choice) and by then he won’t be living here anyway so won’t even know until I tell him. He was no support in the pregnancy or birth of our son. I’ve had 3 traumatic births previously and am so scared about this one but I don’t want anyone there. I know it will be difficult but I will cope with it all and bring the child up alone. I can do this and so can you xx