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Just feeling down

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mummy182025 · 13/01/2019 19:25

Hi,

Im new to this. I don't know if I should really even be writing on this site.

But, I feel like I need to talk to someone I don't know personally. So please don't judge me.

I am a 30year mum to two beautiful children who I love dearly.

I'm mostly home alone with them as my partner travels for work and is away more then he is home - this doesn't bother me, I enjoy being home alone with my children - and just cuddling them, doing homework, dinner, baths, play dates, clubs and after school activities. I pride myself in making sure they experience different things and learn and grow as individuals.

But lately I just feel like a bad mom. I don't know why - I just feel like I'm doing everything wrong. I feel like when I shout and tell them off I'm being unfair, and they are growing up with an unfit mom.

Or when I'm tired (I wake up at 4:30 every morning with my youngest)) that my eldest gets upset when I don't want to play constantly, or when I put the youngest one down for bed, I don't give my eldest my full attention until their bedtime as I just need to sit and rest (is that selfish?)

Basically I just feel like I'm failing as a mom.

I know deep down it's not true, I know they love me. And I love them. But I just can't help but feel like I'm doing everything wrong.

I just want them to be happy, and do feel safe and to have everything I had growing up.

Does anyone else ever feel like this?

OP posts:
MummEE2 · 05/02/2019 22:55

Yep, I think it's normal to feel that way. You realise you are a good mum and that's important. All mums experience guilt or second guess their decisions sometimes. Nobody's perfect and that's ok

Butterflycup · 09/02/2019 00:57

You aren’t doing anything wrong at all and always remember that x. As mums we naturally give all we possibly can to our children and sometimes this leaves us drained and at times broken. You know in your heart that you love your children to the moon and back but you need to be kinder to you and let yourself breathe xx

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