Antenatal depression and anxiety
WishingOnAStar86 · 15/11/2018 17:56
Any prenatal depression and anxiety survivors out there?
Just searching for a bit of hope ♥️
nickname7890 · 16/11/2018 07:32
I am not really a survivor but I'm 37.3 weeks and have had insane mood swings , depression, negativity and anxiety throughout but much worse in the third trimester
I just want to reach out and send you a virtual hug and say I hope it gets better for you. I try to get fresh air each day and do something just for me - small things like a hot chocolate, fave tv show (avoiding the very popular murder/horro/crime that is all over tv at the moment and keeping t light), read a magazine, have a bubble bath
Easier said than done- I seem to have fallen out with everyone and I'm panicking about the baby coming as I argue with everyone this last stage I don't want bad memories of this stage and me being pregnant I want good memories and to be graceful in pregnancy! Not everyone thinking gosh get this baby out you're a pregnant dragon!
WishingOnAStar86 · 17/11/2018 19:28
Ow blimey, I cant have this get much worse 😱 I'm only almost 16 weeks!
I have been started on some antidepressants, well, a third set but its hard work, waiting to see if these ones will do the trick! Its just so awful, absolutely debilitating at times.
I thought I wanted this but now I have no idea why? I had an unplanned pregnancy over 20 weeks ago and was so happy but unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage at 7 weeks and obviously I was so gutted. So much so that I tried again instantly and was pregnant again within 2 weeks but it's pretty much been doom and gloom since I got the positive. I try so hard to remember how I felt before the m/c but I can just remember how I acted, cant actually remember the feeling. So disheartening. I thought I always wanted to be a mum but now I dont think I do.
Ita so hard to make the right decision on what to do. A part of me tells me to carry on and hope it passes and is just the hormones and depression telling me otherwise but the other part is telling me to just terminate.
Worst time of my life by far
Thank you for replying, so sweet of you
Reastie · 15/01/2019 11:49
Wishing I’m suffering too but I’m also a survivor. I’m 17 weeks and I’m a complete state of anxiety and gloom. It’s complicated and related to feeling so sick all the time and that wearing me down to feel so bad. But I have a dd (7). I went through this before. It was horrendous before and I didn’t know how much I had lost myself until I was better again. The fact you know you’ve got a problem is a big step, I thought I was just making a deal out of nothing and everyone felt like that. For me I continued to be depressed/have severe anxiety until dd was about 3 (but I have complex issues related to a phobia) but once I got better life was brilliant. I finally felt myself and loved my life.
Now I find myself pg again knowing the same thing is happening, it’s tough, but I know it won’t last forever and have to try to remember one day I’ll be back to me again.
WishingOnAStar86 · 25/03/2019 19:41
Such a late reply but thank you so much for taking the time to reply, it's really appreciated 💙
user1494360838 - How is life now you've given birth? Hope all is well :)
Duffya93 · 08/04/2019 18:38
Hi, this is my first time on mumsnet and I purposely came on looking for somebody experiencing the same problem. I am 19 weeks pregnant, and there are days that are great and days that are awful. Like so bad that I don’t want anyone near me, and I can’t get out of the funk. I have suffered with low moods in the past, but have never been actually diagnosed with anything. I spoke to my GP two weeks ago as I am also studying to be a mental health nurse(the irony) and trying to keep my head above water and everything was getting too much. Not to mention, I have also realised who my real friends are since becoming pregnant so that doesn’t help the mood sometimes either. Speaking to her was very daunting but she was very reassuring and I have an appointment tomorrow in my maternity hospital with the mental health nurses as it’s combined care here (Ireland) and the GP wants their opinion before resorting to meds. I’m having a hard time with people calling me ‘moody’ or ‘hormonal’ because I know myself it’s not just that, there’s something wrong and all I want is to enjoy this time with my partner and my family. Help is there and it’s so important to avail of it. And to have your feelings valued can make a huge difference. I have hope though that I’ll be the old me again soon and I keep trying to remember ‘This too shall pass’
leonasa · 09/04/2019 22:30
Hi, was just looking for people who were experiencing the same and came across this. How are you feeling now @WishingOnAStar86, have things improved or are you still having the same thoughts? @Duffya93 How did your appointment go?
I found out I was pregnant only a week ago and I'm just six weeks so I don't know if this is antenatal depression but I feel overwhelmed and terrified, very uncertain about things. It was unplanned and I am single though I had been thinking about going it alone soon with a donor as I am in my late thirties and really want a child. So suddenly here it is, by accident (contraception failure) and I've swung from being happy and excited to absolutely filled with terror and feeling completely alone several times a day, probably. I am not sure about being a mum suddenly especially alone. It's also not the best time in terms of work/finances and I had hoped to get things more sorted on that level before I went ahead, so I'm frightened about how that will play out. But this could be my only chance to be a mum due to my age and I think I've got to come to terms with the fact that it is not how I always imagined.
I am not sure if there are hormones/antenatal depression kicking in or if it's natural to feel the way I do given the circumstances. I feel so guilty about it and so confused.
Duffya93 · 10/04/2019 20:04
@leonasa thanks for asking, it was actually a relief if I'm honest. The nurse was bloody great, sat with her for nearly an hour and I felt like everything I was feeling was validated. And not just as 'pregnancy hormones'. Although she did tell me at the end of the app that the emotional surges will continue and it's totally fine to feel this way. She's given me a list of things to do, including mindfulness and meditation. I've downloaded an app she's recommended called Mind the Bump and I'm also going to get out every day walking. I'm not resorting to medication yet.. not that there's anything wrong with it at all, i would rather try every other avenue first. I know the feeling @leonasa and it's a shitty feeling it really is. A little tip I use for myself and actually learned from a nurse in work - when you're feeling down do the opposite of the feeling... if you feel like crying, stick the shoes on and head for a walk, or if you need cheering up and you're alone, put a favourite comedy on and have a good oul laugh. It does work, for myself anyway... and I also looooove sticking on 80's and 90's dance playlists when I'm feeling shite and having a bop alone in my room! If the feeling persists, do look for support groups or go and see your GP and explain it. Talking about it can also really help.
leonasa · 11/04/2019 21:33
@Duffya93 ah that's great it was so productive with the nurse, sounds like she made a lot of good suggestions. And thanks for the tips too, I will try that! I guess a big part of it is realizing that it's totally normal and to just ride it out in the best way possible...
nickname7890 · 21/04/2019 20:25
Hi all! So I now have a 4 month old .... things are up and down. Bear in mind I have depressive tendencies but generally manage to avoid medication except once in my life when I went through a trauma about 15 years ago. But things are tough at times. Not helped by my marriage being in a really bad state and my husband not being around v much and no family or friends in walking distance it's tough.. I'm considering cbd oil as heard it helps anxiety and think that any greatest issue ! Anyway. I'll get there. And you all will too. One thing I would say is my baby gives me such incredible joy and has given me this special time off work to be with my baby so I am making every effort to enjoy it xxx
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