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Drowning

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mincymoo124 · 13/08/2018 21:36

I feel like I'm drowning with depression. I love my daughter so much and can't imagine my life without her now but I have made a mistake of who I have had a baby with. To narrow it down we weren't together long and his mum disagreed with us being together and didn't speak to him for months because of religious reasons, my family also said it wouldn't work... anyway I fell pregnant and we were in love so we didn't care about anyone's opinion. My pregnancy was awful because of all the conflict and I wasn't speaking to my family and neither was he. Fast forward she is now 8 months old Our relationship hasn't been easy although now our family's are back to normal and his mum adores our daughter (even though she is slightly controlling). We are so different, we are worlds apart from each other and we both want different things. I'm scared to be on my own with a baby but I know it isn't going to work for much longer. He is fantastic with our baby and I know there's no doubt of him providing for her and being a great dad. We are just not meant to be together and it's having a massive impact of my mental health. I don't really like his family very much they're quite dysfunctional and I'm terrified that if something happens to me that they will all be bringing her up.

This is just a brief outline as it would take me hours to go into everything. I guess it's easier for me to write it down because I can't really speak to anyone in person and they will just say I told you so which I don't need to hear right now.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation or can offer any advice? Thanks x

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Makesmilingyourbesthobby · 14/08/2018 03:59

Everybody deserves to be happy op and from your thread you sound very down about things, if its him you no longer want to be with then I'd say take a break if you can & review in a couple of months see how you both feel then but if it's more the situation then it your willing talk to him about how you feel see if he's willing to make some changes to give you both a happy relationship
It's great to hear he's a good father and that both families are there for you all now but if you unhappy you need to at least have a conversation with your partner about how you feel ok
If you have any serious worries about your mental health i would also strongly suggest speaking to your gp too about how your feeling

Makesmilingyourbesthobby · 14/08/2018 04:03

As for being scared being alone with baby what exactly are you scared of?

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