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First Trimester is Hell

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FizzTime · 26/04/2018 09:17

Hi,

Just wanted to share my feelings as I'm sure I'm not alone and I know it helps to hear others are suffering too. I'm ten weeks pregnant with a very much wanted baby and a kind, loving, patient partner - but am struggling to feel anything other than utterly hopeless. I feel totally detached from whatever is growing inside me, I feel strangely repulsed at the sight, sound and thought of my poor partner, which is just bizarre, and making me feel so panicky that I am with the wrong person and had just never realised it until now?! We've been together over ten years. I feel sluggish like never before and can't even muster the energy to swim or do yoga, both of which I love and used to do daily. I feel terrified that I will spend the next ten years feeling like this, stuck at home exhausted with no motivation to do anything and, dare I say it, resentful of my baby and partner? Even things I used to look forward to now bring me nothing but dread and anxiety... if not even those precious things in life bring me any happiness then what will? I can only hope this feeling lifts after twelve weeks. I hope other mummies out there are having a better time, or, if feeling like me, that there is some comfort in knowing you're not alone xxx

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NameChangedForThisQ · 05/05/2018 21:01

Hey yep i felt just like this too. Am now in 2and trimester and its only just starting to lift Flowers

LaurenSarah22 · 09/05/2018 13:00

Your not alone. I didn't believe I was pregnant until my 12 week scan and even now I'm struggling. The sickness and hormones don't help either.

JoanFrenulum · 09/05/2018 13:09

You're full of hormones that are fucking with you. If you can get talk therapy with someone who's got experience with pre- and post-natal depression that might help.

Ten weeks with a very much wanted baby--IVF by any chance? There's a point about 10 weeks with IVF where you're still taking progesterone but your body has started producing it as well because now you have a working placenta, and that can SUCK.

laurs2309 · 22/05/2018 08:10

I'm 8 weeks and feeling exactly the same, it's hard isn't it. Did you suffer with depression before pregnancy? I've been on anti depressants for a few years and have decided to stay on a low dose. It's hard to know what's hormones, what are natural worries at such a life changing thing and what's depression.

agarwalh · 25/05/2018 10:40

I'm 5+6 today with first baby and feel no happiness and excitement at all. More than the early pregnancy symptoms its the anxiety and depression that is causing me uneasiness. I also feel like crying the whole day long and had it not been for work I would have tucked myself in bed in a dark room.
Don't know what should I do.

Goatlady5812 · 22/07/2018 16:29

So glad I found this! I am 8 weeks but came off my anti ds about 4 weeks ago. Struggling a lot. Can’t decide what is hormones and what isn’t but I am very aware I am being vile. To everyone. I am so tearful and down in the dumps all of the time at the moment. I can’t decide if it’s best to go back however the side effects really put me off going through that again :/(

Loopytiles · 22/07/2018 16:34

Sorry you’re feeling this way.

First trimester can be really hard, hormones causing exhaustion for example. After the placenta takes over from the ovaries you may feel better and have more energy. antenatal MH services might help.

You say partner rather than H: are you married? If not, unless you have plenty of money in your own right don’t give up work!

It’s legitimate to worry about how a DC will affect your life and relationship: planning and talking about practical things like division of parenting (including night parenting), domestic and paid work responsibilities is adviseable.

babybean19 · 29/07/2018 19:22

I'm so glad to feel like I'm not alone. I've been on citalopram for 3.5 years and once we started trying for a baby I weaned off as wanted the best for baby. I so wanted this baby for a long time. I'm now 14 weeks and keep thinking 'have I made a massive mistake' 'will I cope' 'what if I don't bond' everyone keeps saying 'ohh you must be so excited' and I'm honestly not which makes me feel bad...my mum had a go saying I should be more excited being as I wanted a baby so bad and that made me feel shit...she went in to say my negativity will pass to my baby 😖 my sister lost her baby recently at 17 pregnant, so i feel part of me is keeping my feelings at harms length so if something happened to me it wouldn't be as bad if not so excited? I don't know where my thoughts are at...I've booked to see my GP as recognize this isn't just hormones but depression too and I know I need my medication back for me and babies sake...feel like I've failed myself and brought this all on myself and to have doubts is petrifying 😢😢

BlueKittens · 28/08/2018 23:24

To those of you coming off medication, you should have a proper assessment from your GP. Now is not the time to stop meds. Depending on your dose, there really is little scientific evidence that many common prescription drugs affect baby developing- there is often no reason to stop breastfeeding either. If your doctor says there is, get a second opinion.

You need to know the evidence before making a decision. Don’t assume drugs are bad for baby unless you know the facts first.

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