My girlfriend and I welcomed our beautiful little girl nearly four years ago. The delivery was an unexpected emergency section and we spent extra time in hospital as our little one wouldn't latch. We've had lovely times but since our daughter arriving we seem to have an endless stream of challenges, from Silent Reflux, CMPA and general sleep challenges that have left both of us exhausted. The hardest thing though has been the difficulties the last 4 years have brought to our relationship. I love my girlfriend and our little girl more than anything and I try my best to share the workload of the day to day, and night, needs. Over time my girlfriend's attitude toward me has become hostile and any conversation I have with her is met with nasty replies. She often misinterprets my intentions or simply dismisses my opinions like I'm dirt, when all I ever want to do is help. I've taken the verbal hits for this whole time as I believe that it's a combination of sleep deprivation and PND that is underlying and my girlfriend did see a GP a few years back about this. However, this didn't go as I'd hoped as after she was given sleeping pills and antidepressants, she tried the sleeping pills but nothing else which was a joint decision as neither of us thought that antidepressants are a fix. Having read more I'm beginning to think that there is more to this approach than simply and artificially suppressing mental state, which was our opinion at the time. These days I am struggling to remain patient, especially as I now feel that our little girl is witnessing mummy's shouting and more frequent moments of loss of temper, especially as regular night time wakings continue. I've recently started to tell my girlfriend to leave the room when she is shouting at our little girl in an attempt to get her to stop crying or go back to sleep. At this point I want to add that if anyone is thinking my girlfriend is not so nice, that's not true. I know she loves our little girl and I hope she still loves me, but me feeling like I have to intervene this way is making the bridge between us longer. My girlfriend is also very selfless by nature and puts others first. Ive been clinging on to the hope that bringing up our little girl will get easier and everything will fall into place but recently my thoughts have turned to despair in the thought that we might not make it through and I couldn't bear being apart from my baby girl, or my girlfriend - my best friend, if that happens. I also want to say that my girlfriend takes the brunt of the issues but that isn't because I'm not available, she just takes it on herself and often pushes me away if I try to help. I really want her to find time for herself, but I think she feels the burden is on her, which although I understand her feelings, I don't feel this is a fair opinion. Im a true believer that we are in this together and it is not a woman's job, where a man should help from time to time but despite me trying my best, my girlfriend makes comments as if I don't help or I'm useless. This hurts as I know I'm there, doing my fair share, more than most other dad's and deep down my girlfriend must know this. Right now I'm typing this and trying to figure out what to do next. I'm thinking a visit to the GP, for me and ideally my girlfriend but I'm almost frightened to broach the subject, plus I know she feels dismissed previously so I'm not sure how effective it will be. My girlfriend previously admitted that she thinks she had/has PND but I'm worried that suggesting we go for help will be taken as me labelling her as the problem. I love her so much and tell her but I'm afraid that she sees me with such hostility that we are struggling to communicate and I think that is failing to address the situation earlier may have lead to the extreme point I feel we are at. I really can't believe the situation we are in as we were soul mates, and I hope still are, before our little girl arrived.