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I hate myself for the way I feel

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Jekyllandhydesmother · 06/04/2018 11:33

My son is 2 yrs 4 months. I have had anxiety/depression (possible bipolar) for years but because I have fibromyalgia my mental health issues get pushed to the side.
I'm only at home with my son on a Friday due to my uni lectures (I'm retraining as couldn't afford to work with him).
I feel so ungrateful but honestly I hate being alone with him. He's violent towards me and no discipline works (trust me we've tried everything). He's not like that with anyone else. He's boisterous be usually well behaved aside from normal toddle strops.
I KNOW he's bored and that's probably the issue but I'm in so much pain and so exhausted I can't do anything. I hate myself for that too. He didn't ask to have a shit mum.
My husband doesn't get it. He just says "oh he can't be that bad". Well he's not here. It's just taken 45 mins to change a pooey nappy.
It's not fair on my son to have me as a mum but I'm stuck. We can't afford for my husband to be off. I can't afford the childcare. Its unlikely I could find a job to pay well enough anyway.
I don't know what to do

OP posts:
BlueRainyDays · 10/04/2018 07:24

Could you get a tablet with some educational games on it?

Like you say it's only one day, it won't kill him to have a bit of screen time.

Have some toys laid out in 'stations' so he can move round them if he wants to as well.

Your not a crap Mum, your not well.
It's a huge difference. Thanks

Your DS will behave better eventually, try to remember that.

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