Antinatal depression... who to talk to?

[lucyst87]

I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant and recently finding things hard.
I have an almost 5 year old boy from a previous (sadly abusive) relationship (who does not have contact with his natural father) . Although my partner now is a wonderful man, he has a very stressful job and whilst I know he is excited for the impending birth of our son, he shows little or no interest in anything to do with this pregnancy, adopting very much a 'ill deal with it on the day' approach. I realize that it's difficult for the men to feel a connection with the baby before it's born. But I feel like he's not even trying. He doesn't do it internationally as I've spoken to him about it so many times.
I also have guilt towards my son about having another baby, he's been through a lot in his earlier years and although he says he is so excited for the new baby I don't want him to feel excluded. Basically I feel as though it's all down to me, and me alone, I feel like my partner channels all his energy and focus and time into work and when he gets home and I try to speak to him, I'm just bothering him. I've tried talking to him about it and he says it's not intentional but I'm just at that stage where I feel so alone with the impending birth and looking after my sons best interests.

[KatyN]

Do you have family around? Or a mate? I would probably explain that you're feeling a bit lost and want to talk to someone... that way they won't want to steer the conversation to something less sad (for you).
Also your mw should make time to listen to you, not necessarily in your normal appointment but at a separate time. Mine were really helpful when I was lost at the end of pregnancy. (Sometimes you need to cry for them to take you seriously!)

You are so nearly there... kxx