Pregnant but having second thoughts

[Hanika8]

Hi. I'm 6-7 weeks pregnant and this is my first pregnancy. I should be happy but I'm not. Initially we were shocked and over time I've felt so anxious and panicky that I started to feel that I didn't want this baby. I don't think I can cope with a child. I feel so so tired and depressed and down all the time with some really awful thoughts. I feel really guilty feeling like this. Also I'm 40 and my husband is 49 so we are really worried about how we will cope. Is it normal to feel like this?

Were you trying? If not its not surprising your panicking but even when you are its not unisial for the reality to be very scary.

You really need to speak to someone about the depression and the dark thoughts irrespective of what you decide.

No one can make the decision for you and as long as you are happy with it no one has a right to judge but 40 isn't that old these days and if you wanted this baby before it became real, I wouldn't rush into any thibg

It's Normal to have anxiety and second thoughts especially so early on. I'm 27 weeks now and still feel ambivalent about my pregnancy don't beat your self up because it's so scary when it becomes real there's so much to think about and take in! We're you trying op?

Hi. Thanks for your messages.
No we weren't trying to conceive so it was a complete shock and still is. Sometimes I want this baby but most of the time I don't know if I can go through with it. Been feeling very emotional about it all as well.

This is big news and it's natural to feel confusion and worry, especially if you weren't intending to get pregnant. Your anxiety needs treating first. Seek out some counselling (possibly from more than one source) as they will empower you to work out how you feel, long-term. You're capable of more than you ever know, and having a little one proves that to many parents! Best wishes x