Why aren't I jumping for joy that I'm pregnant?

[LaurenAC]

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for 18 months and we had just started initial tests to see what was going on.

I found out last week that I'm 4 weeks pregnant, I was thrilled! The last couple of days though I've felt quite down. I keep thinking of all the things that will change, that I can't do etc which is so selfish and is making me feel worse.

I've got a lot of bloating so I also feel like a fat sack as it's not a pregnancy bump which is different.

I just wondered if anyone else has gone or is going through this and if it's quite common?

I feel so guilty for feeling this way.

Thanks x

Ah, don't feel guilty - it is all a bit surreal in the beginning and not quite tangible.

Feelings of ambivalence are quite normal.

How are you feeling now?

I was like this. I think it was anxiety about the pregnancy - was it real, was the baby OK in there - coupled with fear about how life would change.

29 weeks now, and I'm more "quietly excited". I still get anxious at times. But not everyone jumps for joy, and there's no need to pretend you feel different to how you feel.

9+2 with my second and feel exactly the same. I felt the same with my first and can honestly say she is the absoulte hands down best thing I have ever done! Yes it's hard in the early days but she brings so much joy.
So I can't explain why I'm down about a second, which was planned and took nearly a year to conceive.
DH puts it down to hormones and I think it must be. I cried all morning today and couldn't even explain why.
It should get better after 12-14 weeks. If not maybe see your GP xx

Had to check that I'd not written this and forgotten. I'm the same. I'm really happy to be pg but really not looking forward to the rest of the pregnancy, I can't wait til next summer when it's here and I've got through the first couple of months. And can have a glass of wine and feel like myself again as much as that's even possible!

I had a mmc last year and have been terrified about losing this one too, I saw the heartbeat this time on an early scan and was so happy but then had a feeling of 'oh is that it' not long afterwards.

I put my feelings down to the anxiety of the previous mc and that this baby wasn't planned so it's a lot to get my head around.

and congratulations though!

@laurenAC I completely get this... however my pregnancy was unplanned and I cried for 3 days afterwards. I still am not 100% happy that I'm pregnant but I don't want to lose the baby either. Don't thin I'll buy anything at all till the end of the pregnancy or after birth as I just don't want to as I don't feel bonded with the pregnancy or baby. I'm 13+4 at the mo and have know since 4 weeks