Depression during pregnancy

[HaylJay]

Hi everyone,

I'm writing this post because I'm struggling again with depression in early stages of pregnancy and would just like to get it off my chest.

I've had two previous miscarriages, one of them two months before this pregnancy. I have a 15 month old son.

I've planned all the pregnancys and wanted children more than anything so I don't understand why I always struggle so much.
I'm only 8 weeks along and having extreme fatigue and naseau so I just put down feeling low on that but it's been a couple of weeks again now and I'm starting to feel really bad again as if I don't have any appetite and don't want to go out.

I feel really disappointed in myself because I seemed to be doing much. Better recently at dealing with depression, I was getting out and about every day with my son, taking him to play group, taking him swimming, taking him to see his cousin and to the park etc.

I sometimes feel like I'm just not cut out to be a good Mum and know I'm worrying that with a second baby I'm taking on more than I can handle.

I've tried going to therapies but I couldn't commit to it as I couldn't arrange any childcare for my son.
I don't really have any outside support from friends or family.

I don't want to go back on antidepressants during pregnancy, so I'm just wanting to see if anyone else has felt like this at all?

Hi,

So sorry to hear you are struggling! but your symptoms sound exactly how i am feeling too! i'm 12+4 weeks with my first pregnancy, it wasn't planned and my partner has left me.

i completely understand all those feelings of hopelessness, and i am worrying that if i feel like this now what am i going to be like when the baby is here?

i've been to the doctors a few times and they've brushed it off as hormones, which i wasn't happy about!

i think these online forums are amazing and really make you feel as though you aren't the only one going through this. Pregnancy is hard and i never realised it until i became pregnant, but i take my hat off to you going through this and still caring for your little one. you are stronger than you think!

the fact you have come on here seeking advice proves you aren't a bad mum at all! have you spoken with family and friends so that they can support you too?

take care, i hope you start feeling a bit better soon xx

Hi Kate,

Sorry for my late response and sorry you are feeling low :(
I know it's not always easy but please, please go back to the doctors and tell them you are struggling and ask for a different doctor to whoever brushed you off as being hormonal. I can't believe that they haven't taken this serouisly and just brushed you off it's awful :(

And I'm so sorry to hear about your partner. Is he being completely unsupportive?
How about family and friends?
Is there anyone at all you can reach out too?

I agree these forums are brilliant as we can talk to people going through similar experiences and emotions. I hope you start to feel better soon and you can come to enjoy your pregnancy.

I don't really have any outside support myself, it's just me and my partner.
My doctor has said it's safe for me to go back onto setraline for depression as this is something that i found very helpful before. I try use antidepressants when I'm really stuffing to get me through a bad time but I'm not on them at the moment. I'm not sure how I feel about going back on now during pregnancy especially now I found out I'm having twins so I'm already classed as a high risk pregnancy.

Hope you feel better soon too, take it easy.
I'm here to chat if you ever need.

• Hayley

@hayljay

hello lovely!

i know it's the most frustrating thing ever, i hate going to the doctors anyway i've been twice in the past week or so! i was trying to explain to her my situation and she just looked at me and went "it's majority hormone related" i was literally taken back by it! 😐

Yeah he seems to change his moods quite frequently, i don't know whether he will come round but he's definitely moving away to london in 2 weeks time which broke my heart. 😓 family have been so supportive so i can't complain in that aspect, i've just been so angry all the time it's not like
me at all!

thank you so much. congratulations on the news about the twins, that is amazing! how is everything going with it? hope you are getting plenty of rest and support 😘

thank you though it's very comforting to know there are people who i don't even know that are willing to talk to me! you too love.

take care xxxx

That's totally frustrating and so bad for the doctor to do that :(
Did you manage to see a different doctor who could offer you some help?

Aww it's such a difficult situation for you I'm so sorry your having to go through this but I'm glad your family are being supportive.
Just remember you have survived your life up until now and you will survive this too and come out the other end a stronger person!
Just don't ever feel bad reaching out to anyone who will listen if you need support or just someone to talk too as that really does help!

Everything seemed okay on my
Ultrasound with the twins but I'm only 11 weeks! I had another scan date soon so I'm looking forward to that.

Hope I can help even if it's just a little!
Take care too

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