Fuzzyduck21 · 01/07/2015 15:24
Has anyone here suffered with antenatal anxiety surrounding the health and wellbeing of their unborn child? I'm suffering with this and want to know other people's outcomes...
I'm being seen by iapt people who don't really specialise in pregnancy stuff and I'm having cbt but it's not really helping :( I will persevere though. I am also seeing an obs and gynae counsellor starting next week but midwife saw me yesterday and insisted I speak to the doctor there and then. The doc said I need to relax and start enjoying pregnancy (great advice, not thought of that!) and also thought it wise to tell me how there are lots of studies going on about how anxiety and depression affects the unborn baby ie adhd, lower iq, behavioural issues etc. This had already crossed my mind but now I feel terribly anxious about it since the doc mentioned it. Has anyone had a baby after antenatal anxiety/depression and the baby be ok? I'm terrified that I have ruined it's life :( please help x
gemsparkle84 · 01/07/2015 20:19
Hi Fuzzyduck. I too am suffering anxiety... I've only just had my BFP for a much wanted baby but because I went on holiday just after I conceived and had a few drinks ie, wine with dinner , a few cocktails I can't stop thinking I've done irreparable damage. I'm only about 18dpo but estimate I have been drinking like days 1-11dpo on and off. It makes me feel so sick. I suffer with anxiety and OCD anyway. I'm sure you don't need to be worried about worrying, for me as someone who knows what it's like to live with severe anxiety please listen to me when I say this is one of those times when your mind has created something to worry about. If it wasn't this it would be something else. I know it feels so real but this really is not a concern for you. In the here and now your mental health is more important. Slow down, take time, relax and stop overthinking. You have my support. I don't know if it will be any use to you but I can try.
Fuzzyduck21 · 07/08/2015 12:22
Hi gems thanks for your message :) how are you coping? meds? what's your midwife like? thanks for the support x
Fuzzyduck21 · 07/08/2015 12:25
ps I know it probably doesn't help and I don't want to seem like yet another person telling you it will be ok (I know the feeling!!) but I know a lot of people who didn't know they were pregnant and drank and babies were absolutely fine. I think the main problem is if you continue to drink throughout, which I doubt you will!
I am terrified the number of scans I've had and the constant stress of the depression and anxiety will both have caused irreparable damage to baby. also when I was straightening my hair I get steam coming off it and worried about inhaling that - it sounds ridiculous written down... but that's me xx
ng60563 · 01/09/2015 09:36
I am looking for some help or reassurance i guess.
I am suffering really badly with anxiety. I cant stop worrying about how we are going to afford this baby, if i'm not worrying about that I then move on to being utterly convinced the baby will be unwell.
I am still very early stages and keep thinking (and hating myself for it) that ending the pregnancy is the best for all concerned as the worry and fear and stress just seems to be building.
pennypitstoppe · 01/09/2015 21:13
Hi, I was very anxious and stressed throughout my daughters pregnancy. She's nearly 4 now, in good health and,very bright if I do say so myself please don't worry, if stress affected,babies the human race would have finished by now. Of course it's nice if you can reduce anxiety for your own sake, but I know that's easier said than done.
hairbrushbedhair · 06/10/2015 13:37
I was incredibly anxious and depressed I even was admitted to a psych mum and baby unit I was so ill... My son is 3 now and very bright and funny, he was a very chilled out baby and now a strong willed yet incredibly cute pre-k'er
It was okay for me. Your GP needs a slap
Nousername2015 · 20/10/2015 18:24
fuzzy I am suffering the same. I got pg again very quickly after a mc and my anxiety is just getting worse and worse. I've had 2 counselling sessions but it's too early to say if it is having a good effect. I'm obsessed with everything that can go wrong in a pregnancy and spend hours googling all sorts of horrific things. I can't concentrate at work, my dh wants to know where the old me is and I'm literally crossing off the days until I'm 40 weeks (I'm 26+6). I thought I'd be better after scans etc but it's only getting worse. I can't visualise bringing a live baby home, I won't discuss names or buy anything.
I'm sorry I haven't offered you much support in this post but I want you to know that you aren't alone. I feel like this is the only place I can open up as I feel ppl in rl don't understand. I hope you've had some good days since you last posted, you can only do one day at a time.
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