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Someone please help.

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Rebecca1608 · 30/04/2015 12:26

31 weeks pregnant with identical girls.
I'd been with my OH around 10 months before i fell pregnant unplanned. He wasn't over the moon and did tell me to keep my options open. I decided i was keeping them as termination wasn't something i agreed with. He came around and all was okish although he only came to 1 scan.
We hadn't lived together yet but moved in ready for our little family and our relationship was fine. I quickly realised i was the only person buying everything for the house (material things) i do all the house work. Cooking. Shopping and not had a penny towards all i've bought for the kids already. Which totals up to around £1000 so far. I pay half of the rent. Council tax. Shopping and try and buy a few things for the kids every month to make it cheaper for me.
We've been together around 15-16 months now and of course still adapting to living together but i do everything and buy everything. My dad had a terrible stroke in october when i was around 3-4 weeks pregnant and seemed to make a good recovery but recently i've noticed he's gone downhill because he can't work and he's a proud man. His hands and head shake a lot.
Over the last couple of weeks i've too gone downhill. I wake in the night worrying about finances (Although i'm not in debt) i'll struggle when my maternity kicks in- i worry about getting everything sorted for my babies in time i've got 5 weeks left And i spend so much time just thinking in my new house my heart races and i feel anxious. I'm physically drained and feel emotionally unstable (i've never had problems with mental health before) i've cried for the last 5 days and feel sick. I'm starting to hate this new house and only feel relaxed in my parents house.

I don't know what to do!

OP posts:
stargirl1701 · 30/04/2015 12:28

You need to talk to your MW. Show her your OP.

Congratulations on your pg Thanks

Rebecca1608 · 30/04/2015 13:13

I know i'm just scared incase she thinks i'm unfit. I know i'll be ok when my girls get here but i'm really drained and struggling.
Thankyou.

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Justusemyname · 30/04/2015 13:14

What you should do is kick out your useless piece of crap and start funding yourself and your babies yourself. I have a sneaking suspicion that your depression would lift immediately.

Rebecca1608 · 30/04/2015 17:23

I think so too. I can't go on it's not healthy for me or babies.

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RL20 · 30/04/2015 19:45

Just passing through to say that I hope you're ok. Having a baby is the time to kick out any negativity which includes negative people! I have a 9 day old baby and it's hard. I can't imagine doing it with a person who brings me down so much. Please do talk to the midwife - they won't think any less of you, they'll do their best to help you. Good luck x

stargirl1701 · 01/05/2015 12:53

How are you today, Rebecca?

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