Worth clinging onto nct friends when they keep upsetting me?
Allymint · 27/09/2014 18:32
I guess I'm lucky that my nct group is still going after 2+ years but I'm really struggling to weigh up whether it is emotionally healthy for me to stay friends with them. I have recently had a second baby and most of them know I have been struggling with pnd. I don't drive and don't have any family or lifelong friends nearby so I have felt very isolated. They have all had a lot going on too, moving houses and now a few others have second babies or are expecting. So I can understand why we don't meet very often and I don't hear from them much, although I thought they might be a bit more interested in seeing my new baby. I feel like they still do a great job of celebrating eachother's good news- we've just had a flurry of emails congratulating one lady on her engagement and we recently had a baby shower for one of the mums. But when I mentioned that I have been really ill for 3 days with a tummy bug and that I couldn't eat for two days but was still having to be up all night with the baby I didn't get a single reply. I feel really hurt. I always feel confused about where I stand with them. It's not like I am always negative and down which I know can send people running for the hills. I get on fine with them all in person but now we hardly see eachother I feel like they only care about themselves. We were all so intensely supportive of eachother in the early months with our first dcs I find it strange that they can all sink back into being fair weather friends. I keep thinking I should do the same and just go along to meetups and have fun but keep my problems to myself but that's just not in my nature. So should I cut and run? Is it just easier to reply to good news than bad? Surely a "get well soon..." email is as easy as "congrats..."??
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