How do deal with settling newborn

[Salene]

So day two with first baby and zero sleep, he won't allow us to put him down, he will sleep fine in our arms/ on our chest but the minute you try to lie him down he screams his head off and want to be back in your arms

Is it just a reassurance thing and will it improve..? How am I ever going to sleep again..?

My husband goes away in a few days for a month, so I will have no one to give me a break

I have been trying to get him to sleep in a cacoonababy which their meant to love but he refuses.

I know it's early days but anyone got any tips..?

My only tip is hang in there! I'm on night 17 with a newborn now and whilst the first few nights were as you describe he will go down now. It's still bloody tough but not AS bad.

Oh fingers crossed then as otherwise I've no idea what I will do, the lack of sleep is getting to me already.

Thanks

DC2 slept on me for the first month. It helped me to just accept that's the way it was and that it won't last for ever. I slept with him lying on me in bed, well clear of duvets and pillows. I also got a sling and carried him in it all day - he loved it (DC1 never liked slings but then he didn't do the sleeping on me thing either). It definitely helped him feel secure enough to start to accept being put down for short periods. And in a matter of weeks (weeks, not months or years) you'll be able to put him down and will miss those baby snuggles Another way to look at it is that your child had just spent 9 months growing inside you. The world is a HUGE shock to them and the first few weeks can be considered as a fourth trimester as you help your child adjust to the outside world.

I feel for you though with your DH going away soon, and for so long. Do you have family or good friends who could come and stay with you in turns while he's away? Or could he break his trip and come back at the weekends? My DH had a week long business trip when DC2 was a few weeks old and my bestie came and stayed and helped with cooking, washing and entertaining DC1. I luffs her.

My mum has this problem with my sister - she somehow discovered that putting her in her car seat on top of the tumble dryer, and turning the dryer on, somehow worked at getting her to go to sleep...