When does baby blues become PND?

[Wilberforce2]

Hi, my baby is 18 days old and I am seriously struggling. She isn't an easy baby and screams most of the day (today being the worst yet) and all I can think about is how I wish I could go back to last year and not get pregnant. I have an amazing ds and I'm not sure why I chose to ruin our little family by bringing this screaming angry baby into it :( I do nothing but cry and didn't leave the bedroom with her today until 2pm because she just wouldn't stop. I want someone to come and take her away and tell me it's all been a mistake or to wake up tomorrow morning and for it all to have been a bad dream. I'm not eating and have practically lost all my baby weight because I feel like there is this huge knot in my stomach. I can't even describe how awful I feel I just can't stop crying and am on the verge if done kind of panic attack when I think that she is here to stay.

Please help me I feel like the worst mother in the world.

[MrsJamin]

You're definitely not the worst mother in the world. You need to ask real life people for help as well as on here. Your gp, midwife or health visitor are all ready to talk to you. This is not your fault or the baby's fault, it happens a lot that mothers are overwhelmed and the huge change in lifestyle and hormones hits you like a tidal wave. You do not need to be ashamed, you just need to be honest with those who love you and professionals who are trained to help you. Have a look at //www.pandasfoundation.org.uk ?who have a phone line you can call and talk. Keep coming back to mumsnet too.

[Beccadugs]

No real advice, but lots of empathy.
I started a thread myself the other day.
Talk to people in real life.
Much better to seek help and not need it long term, than not seek it and really need it, if that makes sense?

[stargirl1701]

Is it you? Or, the baby?

DD was a non-stop screamer. I thought I was going made. She had silent reflux. Once we got her medication sorted, she stopped screaming all day long. I felt normal again!

[Wilberforce2]

Thank you, I do need to speak to someone although HV is pretty useless so will try my GP as he is lovely.

Star - she has screamed non stop today and last night I do feel so sorry for her though as it seems like she is in pain so maybe a tummy ache. I have an appointment for her tomorrow at the doctors to get her checked over.

[stargirl1701]

We filmed a feed on my phone. The GP used that to diagnose the silent reflux.

[Wilberforce2]

Took her to the GP yesterday and he said it's probably colic but I thought that was just evenings? This child screams whenever she is awake :(

We just seem to make each other unhappy, I would do anything to go back in time and not get pregnant..

[stargirl1701]

Colic is a bullshit answer. It means nothing.

I had to make 6 appointments over 8 consecutive days to be taken seriously by the GPs.

[curiousgeorgie]

I wrote your exact post when my DD2 was born. Her screaming got so bad I actually hated her, especially as you say, for ruining my little family that was so happy.

But like the above poster, I persisted with the doctor. I took her 12 times in 3 weeks, they were sick of me. Finally they prescribed Gaviscon, which did nothing. Then Ranitidine, which also did nothing. Finally they prescribed us Nutrimigen milk, which was like a light switch for her crying.

It took a few weeks, and I always felt quite fearful of her, but everything is better now. I was so low that I think I had PND, and her screaming certainly didn't help. Arching her back and spitting out the milk, everyday I woke up dreading the day.

But as someone said to me, it's not normal for babies to scream all day long. Persevere with the doctor and it will get better!

My DD is 8 months now and I had the loveliest day in the world with her yesterday, watching her clap her hands while her big sister sang to her. All the screaming and depression seems a bit of a blur!

[pmtom12]

Although it doesn't feel like it, it is normal to feel the way you do- (that's what everyone tells me!)My daughter is 14 days old and although she doesn't scream all day she needs to be held constantly even at night! My son had colic and friends suggested taking him to an osteopath. I can't remember it curing it, however he did seem to be more at ease. How are you feeding?

[Wheresmysocks]

Sorry it's so hard for you right now. i remember feeling exactly as you describe & it's not normal.

Go back to the GP with regards to the crying/reflux.

Go and talk to a gp regarding how you feel.

I used a strict routine with ds. Not for everyone but it helped me cope.

Use anyone you can for a break or support.

Eat. I know your not hungry but eat just because it's lunch time etc.
It will pass. It will get better.

Take care of yourself. x