just want to cry all the time :(

[katrinaxx]

hi all had my baby boy a week ago and I really love him but im not coping very well its so hard im not getting any sleep because he wont sleep at night everytime he cries I want to cry and he doesnt cry that much Im really down whats wrong with me

Oh you poor thing.

Is there someone there to give you a hand? Or a wee break?

It is hard and overwhelming and crying is totally normal.

Will your hv be visiting soon? If you can, talk with them.

I was a mess a week in btw - just out of hospital and crying every few hours!

It does get easier, I promise!

Oh you poor thing. The first few weeks are very very tough as your hormones are completely bonkers and combined with no sleep, makes you feel very very ready.

I cried a lot at the beginning and then after about 5 weeks woke up feeling like myself again. I

Be very very kind to yourself. Get all the help you can and remember that sleep wise, now is probably as bad as it will ever be I hope.

I meant 'very teary' not 'ready!'

Firstly, congratulations.
The first few weeks are the hardest & don't under-estimate all you have been through giving birth etc. That impact on you mentally & emotionally & to then be straight in to coping with the needs of a newborn - it's very overwhelming.
Do you have anyone to help out? Give you a few hours sleep?
Do you have a supportive HV/MW you could chat with?
It does get better.

my midwife is coming on monday but what if she thinks I cant cope I dont want her to judge me x

Katrina: EVERYBODY thinks they will be judged by the midwife. I remember panicking that she would report me to social services for having a messy house and screaming twins. The hormones and sleep deprivation makes you feel paranoid.

The first few days/weeks are utterly overwhelming.

Hello hugs and kisses from me, you will be ok it gets better trust me. DS did sleep much for the 1st 2 weeks I cried all the time and also lied to the MW that I was ok because I didn't want her to judge me, Now at 9 weeks he sleeps at 9 working up for a feed every 3 hours. You will be fine just keep your head up...things will get better!

((Hugs)) i feel the same at the moment, a week post partum xx

My DS was born 2/2 and I feel the same . I feel like I want my old life back

Loving concerns are winging their way to you and also alot of understanding. Please don't be thinking that the HV will be judging you unfairly. You must share your concerns with her as she will hopefully make some helpful suggestions. You being tired will not help - try not to feel too stressed out as these signs are transferred to your 'little bundle of joy'
Not giving you much joy at the moment - but better times will come.

I feel this way with ds (dc3) and he's four weeks old