I guess I just really feel the need to get everything out of my head and written down, I'm in no way expecting anyone to respond or even read my crazy babbling.
DS1 is three years old, DD is almost 1 and DS2 is just two weeks old. After the birth of DS1 I developed PND, it took nine months for me to be diagnosed. Was given AD's which I took for a couple of weeks and stupidly decided to stop taking myself after a scary episode of suicidal thoughts (which had never happened before taking them). Didn't return to GP for another six months, but when I did I was sent for Cognitive Behaviour Coaching. Didn't find it helpful, as she would just concentrate on me needing to take DS out when I could do that but really wanted a listening ear. After 8 session programme had finished, I didn't go back to GP then fell pregnant with DD.
After birth of DD, I hated anyone holding her/feeding her/changing her. She was MY little girl and I wanted her to myself. Even refused to let DP help. Worried PND was making a comeback, but these feelings lessened after a week or so and I returned to 'normal'. Although looking back I can see I was still suffering from the depression I had after DS1.
DS2 was such an easy pregnancy physically but emotionally I struggled. My moods changed dramaticaLly, more so than just pregnancy hormones dictate but I didn't do anything about it in case people judged me as a parent. Now since the birth of DS2 I've become totally unrecognisable to myself. I can't stand the sound of DS1 or DD's cries/whinges they make me feel angry though I never act upon it. I feel no love for anyone or anything other that DS2, although I know I still love my other two. I often wish my partner would just leave, he seems more of a hindrance than a help. Messes up my changing bag when I have it in the order I like, moves things from where they're supposed to be in the kitchen etc. I feel so down all of the time and often find myself either crying, or just gazing out the window. I cannot concentrate on anything for more than two minutes, unless it's something to do with the kids. When it gets close to bedtime I hate it, I feel sick because I know that night time is short and that I have to get up in the morning still feeling this way. It's not that I don't want to wake up, I just don't want to wake up to these feelings again. I'm also ashamed to admit that this morning I hit my DP, not in front of the kids luckily but I'm disgusted to say I probably would have still done it if they where around. I lost control. I failed at bf DS2 and partner made a comment this morning about his sister's friend who successfully bf her son and will just do it everywhere. It really got to me so I slapped him. I'm scared of myself. I can say I'd never hurt my kids but really, I thought I'd never hurt my partner. I'm a monster. I'm not me. What's happening
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