Hi, I'm really struggling to cope 9 days after my baby boy was born. He was 7 weeks early and I gave birth at home on my own. My labour was very quick and I didn't have much time to take it in. I started getting pains at 17.15, my waters broke at 17.30 and I called an ambulance. Baby was born 17.50 just a minute before the paramedics arrived. He's healthy and was taken off oxygen after 10 hours, he was out of an incubator after 7 days but is still in high dependency as he is tube fed. I've been through the motions.
First of all stated off feeling cheated I didn't get to finish my pregnancy. Crying when I could fit into my old jeans after a day of looking at where my bump was when in the shower or in bed.
Then feeling guilty that he came early and my body didnt keep him in.
I'm now just an emotional zombie. We visit the hospital 3 times a say at his care times. The hospital is 25 minutes drive away so we spend a lot of time going backwards and forwards to him. When at home all I seem to do us express milk. We moved hour only a week before he arrived so everything is still in boxes. Trying to sort everything out us tiring.
I'm beginning to resent having to express milk, especially waking myself up in the middle of the night when I'm already exhausted.
I don't feel like Harry's mum. He's a baby I visit in hospital and take milk to. I hate myself when I resent leaving the house at 9pm to go and see him when I just want to sleep.
On top of it my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer yesterday. My family are all 400 miles south and I'm now upset I can't be with them as my place is here looking after Harry. I want my dad to meet his first born grandson.
I wish I could curl up in a ball and hide for the next month. ??
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AlisonL1981 · 26/03/2013 08:29
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