This is my first post. I am 40, single, and about 9 weeks pregnant via donor insemination after 6 attempts and spending a total of 10K. I have a history of depression, no family nearby (parents are mid 70s and 80s and they and my sister live 250 miles away), anonymous donor means there is no father as such, although a recent ex who knew about the donor insem (and could potentially be the father) is still on the scene. He's been 'trapped' (his words) before and not interested in hanging around if I continue with the pregnancy, which I do find understandable in the circs.
When I discovered I was pregnant my first reaction was 'what was I thinking?' and 'how could I have been so stupid?'. I have felt none of the positive feelings I felt as I was undertaking this journey, despite thinking it through carefully. This contrast in 'before' and 'after' feelings has been really distressing. Now over the inital shock and overwhelm, I continue to feel I was totally irresponsible for thinking I could cope with a baby on my own without any support and I seriously fear for my future mental health, and the future of the child, if I continue. I have had counselling and booked and postponed a termination. This is probably my last chance to have a child of my own, but I am terrified that if I feel a sense of doom about the whole thing now, I will crumble if I have the baby and be unable to support myself financially, or be emotionally robust enough to mother effectively. Has anyone out there been in a similar position without family/partner/ex partner support and survived?!?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Our Antenatal and Postnatal Depression forum is a supportive space where you can share your postnatal depression experiences.
Antenatal/postnatal depression
Single, history of depression, no family support
3 replies
sarahjane72 · 15/01/2013 00:28
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.