Think I have PND, GP was useless... help please

[babyandconfused]

Ive suspected for a few weeks that I may have the startings of PND, it came to a head last week when I dropped the steriliser tub and bottles on the kitchen floor and broke down.

DP admitted to me on Saturday that he thought I had the startings of it.

It took a lot for me to admit to him how I was feeling and again it took a lot to go see my GP this morning. However now I feel even lower than before as the GP dismissed everything I told him as 'Baby blues' because DS wasnt planned, and DP works long hours so im on my own. He just kept putting words in my mouth :(

He's told me to go away and see how I am in 2 weeks, I seriously dont think I can handle another 2 weeks of feeling so down, unmotivated, etc

Is there anything I can do in the meantime? I have the HV coming on thursday but now im worried she'll dismiss how im feeling too.

Talk to your HV and get a second opinion with another GP. Your other one sounds like he's out of the ark.

he did tell me to 'look for the light at the end of the tunnel and it will make everything better'

I second what madlizzy says. Baby blues comes quickly and leaves quickly. What you are describing sounds much more like PND. Don't worry, lots of us have had it and the good thing is it doesn't last forever. You have our sympathy while you are going through it though. Big hug! Please talk to your health visitor and see if she can help.

In the meantime if you are tired & sleep-deprived, get some extra sleep if at all possible, as that can make a difference to your state of mind.

Could you go back and see another doctor?

There used to be a charity called MAMA that specialised in PND but the website is down so it may have closed down. There is lots of help out there for PND, keep posting here if you don't get the help you need.

Do you have private medical insurance through work?

Your GP sounds like an arse.

Go and see your HV. When you were pg / had your first postnatal visit did they give you any info about the MH health services in your area for new mums? Around here (East London) there are specialist services availble and that's what you need to get access to. Your health visitor should be able to give you all the information that you need and point you in the right direction.

There were also groups at our local childrens centre for new mums who had started to feel low and needed support. They were a great starting point and made you realise that you weren't alone and that feeling like this although shitty is not uncomon.

Good luck

Thankyou for your replys. Ive just done the Edinburgh postnatel depression scale and scored 18 which is PND apparently

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I shall print it out and discuss in the morning with HV then book to see a different doctor. DP went mad last night when I told him what the GP had said. Im so pleased DP is supporting me with this

Glad you are going to see a different doctor. I hope he/she is helpful.

Feeling better about it all now. HV came this morning and she does think its PND and she agreed that my GP was an . She also rang my doctors and played the 'im a HV' card and got me a appointment with my chosen doctor on monday. Shes also going to update their system (shared with GP surgery) with what we discussed today and her recommendation of some anti-ds. she is also coming to see me in 10 days.

Finally feel as though people are listening to me.

Thankyou for your support

Excellent. Hope you start to feel better soon. xxx