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No birthday present

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popcorncandy · 11/11/2022 12:18

It's my birthday. I'm not the happiest of people this year as I've had a stressful time with finances, feel like I've taken a few steps back and in the past week have handed in my notice at work - without a new job lined up.

Partner has on occasions before for valentines and Christmas not made an effort and I've not reacted well to it and made a massive deal about why these things are important.

A few days ago he mentioned a couple items he was considering getting me - one is a pair of boots I've wanted for years but have never been able to justify the price. He said he would send the money for so I can order it for my birthday.

He never sent the money. It's my birthday today, he's done nothing for it. No card, chocolates - anything at all.

I'm in tears because this year I can't even treat myself to anything like is usually do.

I feel embarrassed to ask him if he's got something for me. I'm wondering if he will pull out something later. I doubt it though. I'm in tears about how stressful my life is right now and his lack of thought or effort makes me feel like shit and I want to end things for good after this.

AIBU? Part of me feels like a spoilt teenager- I'm 31.

OP posts:
America12 · 11/11/2022 12:29

That's crap. Happy Birthday 🥳

Hello12345678910 · 11/11/2022 12:29

Happy birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉
How long have you been with partner? Do you live with him?
My boyfriend is generally pretty crap too, but if I send him a specific link to an item online, he would have bought it..
Is he with you at the moment? Remind him it's your birthday in a very sarcastic way

roarfeckingroarr · 11/11/2022 12:31

What a bastard. You should be with someone who makes an effort to make you feel special.

SleeplessInEngland · 11/11/2022 12:33

Well I'd wait until the day's over but yeah, not a nice feeling.

CrystalCoco · 11/11/2022 13:03

Happy Birthday!

Sorry you're having such a shitty time.

Can you message or call him and say you'd like to celebrate your birthday with him this evening and suggest a takeaway or booking a table.

OnlyFannys · 11/11/2022 13:05

Happy birthday OP, there is nothing wrong with being upset, it's one bloody day where you should be spoiled and feel important and a priority...not much to ask for! I hope he pulls something out of the bag

Luckynumbereight · 11/11/2022 13:10

Happy birthday OP

You say you’ve had a stressful time with finances yet you willingly gave up your job without having anything lined up. Your boyfriend is probably thinking you don’t deserve a present.

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