Anniversary of My daughters Birthday/ Stillbirth

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Lilbow · 02/09/2023 11:11

Yesterday was the 2nd anniversay of my beautiful daughters stillbirth i lost her full term due to pre eclampsia..Obviously its a really tough day and my emotions are all over the place .
Anyway i was expecting a little support from my family on the day nothing major just a phone call or text to say they where thinking of me. I only have a small family both our parents are deceased i would like to think we are all close .
But yesterday i never heard a word from anyone . I am really upset about this to me in my eyes its the same as me forgetting one of their kids birthdays which i would never do . I know alot of people might think its a hard subject to approach but they are my sisters and i know simply they have forgotten .I feel like texting them but then think whats the point. Just really upset my daughters father had loads of messages of support from family & friends..But i was met with silence ..Just want to know what you would do in this situation say something to them or just let it be . Thanks

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ASandwichNamedKevin · 02/09/2023 13:38

I would absolutely acknowledge the day if it were my sisters.

So sorry for your tragic loss OP 💐 it's very cruel.

Meekmouse · 02/09/2023 13:47

Lilbow I understand how you feel. Also I’m sorry you both had to face this enormous loss two years ago and that you had the anniversary recently too.
I lost my baby at full term too and the second anniversary hit me like a ton of bricks.
In my case, I was disappointed my close friend forgot and when I dropped it into the conversation later (just what we had done that day - not the fact she forgot) - she grew uncomfortable and changed the subject but I was very upset afterwards. She does not know this.

It is incredibly hard and I don’t have advice but I do empathise.
xxxx

Stratocumulus · 02/09/2023 13:48

Sending a virtual hug OP. Your loss is tragic and I’m sorry you’ve had to be preoccupied with a lack of love and support from family.
I’ve never had to suffer such a loss but that doesn’t diminish how sad I am for you and your husbands loss. 💐

Cowlover89 · 02/09/2023 13:50

So sorry for your loss ❤

givemecoffeee · 02/09/2023 13:59

Hi,

I'm so sorry I get it, my baby is 2 in heaven too. The people closest to me have been rubbish as well and it's awful. I did discuss with a family member once how their lack of support made me feel, but it made no positive difference which makes me angrier.
I haven't got much to really add except a virtual handhold, and if you want someone to chat with we can PM. I hope your taking it as easy as you can OP

HelterSkelter224 · 02/09/2023 14:07

I'm so sorry OP. What a devastating loss. Would you like to tell us a little about her?

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