to say 'I love you' twice?

[alexisfaith]

Dh and I woke up this morning and I turned to give him a little kiss: 'love you sweetie, did you sleep well?' We had a little chat about our weird dreams and he gave me a very lingering kiss. I then said 'aw, I really love you!' meaning 'mmm mmm, that was quite a kiss!'

DH's response? He shouted 'Stop, fuck sake, you keep saying the same thing'. WTF? AIBU to have said what I said? I didn't say 'do the dishes!' twice, I didn't say 'do you love me?' twice. In the context of sleepy kisses, I said 'love you' twice.

I'm probably BU because I was quite hurt by it, I think I just looked like ! Before I could say anything, he left the bedroom and slammed the door.

We grew up very differently. In his family, showing emotional is a weakness. In mine, we're very tactile and open. He has always found great joy and comfort in our relationship and often says 'I love you' to me. I don't know why today it was any different.

I heart happy endings!

Erm I don't think that was what the other posters were saying I thought it was just an example of where actions did not match words.

maybe you are right.

I was responding to the idea that "saying something too often cheapens it" and thus a poster has requested that her DH stop saying stuff, followed by a poster enthusiastically saying they totally agreed, as that was how one abusive man had behaved.

I think how often a person tells their loved ones that they love them, is up to the people in that relationship TBH. To say that people who are verbally demonstrative are "cheapening" things made me

Yes, that's true, to be fair I don't think saying something a lot on its own necessarily cheapens it, but if someone is saying "I love you" constantly AND not showing it then it probably has just turned into a habit, rather than having meaning.

Yes would agree with that.

If they are not showing it though, it's not the saying it that needs addressing, it's teh fact that they're not showing it.

Whole thing sounds slightly nauseous to me. Were you lying there awake, watching him, waiting for him to wake up?