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to potty train my 11MO

23 replies

Harimo · 09/07/2010 13:55

my 25MO son is just potty trained. he is using a potty well now.

my 11MO DD is very interested... AIBU (or stupid) to try to put her on the potty?

I would LOVE to try but don't want to 'try and fail' IYSWIM....

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slushy · 09/07/2010 13:56

Please let me know if it works and maybe I will try .

paisleyleaf · 09/07/2010 13:57

I think it's fine to try, but accept that it might "fail" in a nothing lost kind of way.
Just giving her the opportunity to use it - but it doesn't matter if it doesn't work out.

booyhoo · 09/07/2010 13:57

you could try and guess when she is ready to go (is she quite regular?) and put her on then. if she does then just make a bit of a fuss and keep pn doing it but i would definitely keep her in nappies. at that age she has no control over her bladder. it wouldn't exactly be trainig but as long as you stay positive ad accept that she will o in her nappy then it could be a great positive experinec of PT.

HoopyFroodDude · 09/07/2010 13:58

Go for it aparently my DH was fully potty trained at six months so who knows.

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Harimo · 09/07/2010 13:58

so you don't think it would cause problems if we fail?

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AncientStarlight · 09/07/2010 13:59

If she's interested, give it a go. I thought this was going to be one of those 'My child will be potty trained by 16 months' threads

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Harimo · 09/07/2010 14:00

Hoopyfrooddude - did you MIL tell you that????

My mother tells me I was dry (and walking and talking) at 10MOnths... I think she may be suffering from rose tinted glasses!!

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AncientStarlight · 09/07/2010 14:00

I wouldn't seeing as failing, if it doesn't work out, she's not ready. FWIW, DD was 30 months before she was completely dry.

TheNextMrsDepp · 09/07/2010 14:01

Try, but in a low-pressure way. It depends largely on the child how successful you'll be. My niece was a very placid girl and was potty trained before she walked, and certainly in the past they always did it much earlier (try washing nappies without a washing machine and you'd be doing the same). But booyhoo is right, they can't really control when they go, so you have to spot the signs and put them on the potty at every opportunity.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 09/07/2010 14:01

lol HoopyFrood im just trying to imagine my 6 month old DD pulling on my trouser leg and demanding to use the toilet. To me that is toilet trained!

If 11 month old is interested, I cant see the harm in letting her sit on the potty to give it a go.

diamondsandtiaras · 09/07/2010 14:03

there's no harm in sitting her on the potty to see what happens. I'm not sure you could get her potty trained in the sense of her telling you when she needs to go and getting to the potty etc etc.......although I'm sure someone will come along in a minute who managed to get theirs dry day and night by 5 months

HoopyFroodDude · 09/07/2010 14:06

Yes MIL told me that, mad as a box of frogs. DH could talk in full sentences at 8 months as well. Luckily her mother is still around and stands in the background winking at me. It makes life bearable.

11 month old will be fine.

Chil1234 · 09/07/2010 14:07

"My mother tells me I was dry (and walking and talking) at 10MOnths... I think she may be suffering from rose tinted glasses!!"

Are we sisters separated at birth? LOL! My mother tells me exactly the same thing ...

booyhoo · 09/07/2010 14:08

tbh, i dont think you can be looking at it as passing or failing just right now. it will be more a case of, "i timed it right this time" or "i missed the signs this time". if you do start it, please dont expect her to be holding it in and having dry nappies in a few weeks. if it was me and i was starting at 11 months, i would expect to be taking her to the potty until at the very least 18 months before i could hope for her to be aware that she needs to go and then being able to let me know. at the age your dd is it would really only be going through the motions of you taking her when you think she needs to go. it isn't a case of her getting it or failing. she jsut isn't physically capable of it yet.

faddle · 09/07/2010 14:09

I think at that age you can get the idea across that when you sit them on the toilet they are expected to pee etc, a bit like "smile for a chocolate" or some other fun trick, however what you cant really do with a baby that age is to expect them to NOT pee when they dont happen to be sitting on the toilet.
FWIW, DD did her first pee on the toilet at 13 months old. I was very pleased, thinking that a nappy free existence was just around the corner. I finally managed to get her clean and dry at 33 months.............

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Harimo · 09/07/2010 14:16

I didn't mean it like 'passing or failing' just that I don't want to try and end up with more issues IYSWIM....

LOL at Chili

Hoopy - my dad stands behind my mum and is like 'I don't think she was under 1' and my mum is 'Oh, don't be silly' hahaha!!

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booyhoo · 09/07/2010 14:21

i think as long as you are positive about it and dont get annoyed if she doesn't pee in teh potty or if she does pee in her nappy then i think it can only be a good thing. i dont see that it would create issues aslog as it is always positive when she is on teh potty.

Chil1234 · 09/07/2010 14:39

I think if you've got a little one that's genuinely eager to please and wants to have a go at using the potty like a 'big girl' then why not? Maybe at home you could leave the potty out and the nappies off some of the time (especially in this warm weather) and see what happens. When out and about the nappy is on 'just in case'. I think if you're not expecting a totally dry child any time soon then you're not going to pile on the pressure, no-one will get disappointed or upset and it'll just be a lovely game.

Brollyflower · 09/07/2010 14:45

YANBU we were catching all dc2s (predictably regular) poos in the potty from 10 months. We started proper training at about 18 months. She was keen, it was fine.

Lionstar · 09/07/2010 14:48

As everyone else has said, if she's interested then give it a whirl. At the very least you'll cut down on a few nappies. Also being introduced early means they hopefully will have less reluctance to use the potty/loo when they are bigger.

My DD started at 10 months, she quickly picked up a sign for potty and was poo continent almost straight away. She was completely clean and dry by 23 months.

I now stick my 9 month DS on the potty at each nappy change. We have caught quite a few wees, I think he is starting to understand what is happening. Not that that means he is able to hang on to wee, but I think he is learning to relax his bladder when put on the pot.

I'm a big fan of early potty learning. As much becuase it cuts down on the nappies as anything else (we use cloth).

EnglandAllenPoe · 09/07/2010 14:53

why not?

if you're game - and don't mind a bit of mess?.

FindingMyMojo · 09/07/2010 14:54

My DD was very interested in potty from about 12 months - she did poo & everything on it and then the interest passed & she stopped. No harm done though & she potty trained easily at 25 months. Still in nappies at night though she takes them off most nights.

I think if you keep it positive no harm done. Maybe one of the benefits of having an older sibling?

My Mum tells me I too was walking at 7 months (DD was walking at 8 months), potty trained at 12. I think if kids did used to potty train earlier it would be because families tend to spend more time in the home (DD is at childminders & I potty trained her whilst on holiday) and terry nappies are much less comfy when wet than what kiddie wear today.

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