...to want some time for fun with ours kids as well?

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Possibly not the best place for this, but knew I'd get a truthful answer!

H and I have just split, it's all very amicable and there are no major problems.

However, we will both be moving down south, seperatly, and in the short term hoping to share custody equally between us, once he has found a job he still obviously wants to spend as much time as possible with the boys, and that is fine with me. But, he wants to have them every weekend.

AIBU in wanting to have them at for some weekends as well? I don't want it to be that they live with me in the week, I'm the one hurrying them all up for school, come home, cook dinner, bed time, and then he has them all weekend for fun things.

I am not even saying we'll do it turns, or that he can't see them the weekend I have them, I suggested every 3rd weekend I have them, he isn't best pleased with this.

Over to you...!

YANBU. You don't say how old they are but they may not want to spend every weekend at dad's either.

Sorry, they are 8,3 and 18 months. I think they'll be happy to spend as much time as poss with him, they adore him, and him them, but I'd quite like to think that they adore me too!

How about every other weekend and one day in the week that he does not have them at the weekend. Lots of people do that.

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There might not be a lot you can sort out until you know where your addresses are and where the school is though. As maybe some of his time could be weekdays.

Yes Paisley, you're are right on that one.

Well at least I know I am fighting a reasonable corner.

I've no problem with him having them as much as possible (well, I kind of have, I don't know how I am going to handle them not being with me, but I know that is no excuse to not let him have them a good ammount of time), but I want some time with them to take them places and do things, not just the dreary school run.

YANBU as it seems fairly amicable talk to him and say you want them the last weekend of the month and in return he gets them an extra two days e.g during the week or have two long weekends with them. I wouldn't like to be in the situation where im the nasty one who makes them do their homework and makes them go to bed on time and their dad the "fun" one, cos guess who they will fight with when their older?

Thanks all, we have sorted it out, it turned out that actually he wasn't so much angry about me wanting them for a weekend as well, but he is worried about how he's going to have them, so it was more projected fear really.

But, I think we've sorted it out now and laid some of his fears to rest.