to be insanely jealous of dh working

[misdee]

yeah i am, iknow.

but i want to moan about a boss, chat with people who arent in nappies, do more than wipe bums all day. i want to have work friends, chat to customers, and just be out of the house.

am utterly fed up atm. just feeling poo.

i am the same, totaly bored of sitting around i dnt have any family to help out with watching my son so trying to even find a job that works around a nursery seems impossible just now
i dnt think your being unreasonable in the sence you just want a bit of yourself back well thats how i feel but i guess somebody needs to pay the bills

YANBU

I'm not bored at home but sometimes I wish I could do his job for a few days just to get some respite

I really feel for you, i did this when i was made redundant and was quite a bitch too!!!! Now i'm working again I'm a happier person, and my DP and DD are happier too! Do you have any options?

YANBU I felt like this when I was on maternity leave last time.

misdee YANBU I'm feeling exactly the same. I wish I was earning money. I wish there was more to my day than wiping bums and listening to ds whinge constantly. I resent that DP gets money into his bank account every month and I don't.
I'm feeling poo too. I even caved and had a cigarette today I feel so rubbish

with childcare for 4 kids, and another on the way, not many options.

was hoping to volenteer at BHF shop but dh shifts are all over the place so cant agree to any hours.

i just want to be me again.

i was crying earlier as so fed up by it. dd4 has been having a whingey day, she has been exposed to chickien pox, so am really worried, as would have to send dh away until she is no longer contagious if she comes down with it.

just a bad day i guess

YANBU but sometimes (just soetimes) when my partner is on lates and I am home from work dealing with dinner, bath, bed, strops, etc. I wish I could be at home with my kids all day and not always be so damned stressed and busy!

Can't you do some p.t. work? Even a shift a week at the local supermarket/pub in the evening or at weekend might be enough to keep you sane? OU degree/college nightclass?

Good to have your own cash too.

I can totally sympathise.

One of our reasons for stopping at 3 children was because childcare for 4 would have meant one of us having to totally jack in our career. With 3, I was prepared to spend all my salary for a while on childcare, so that I could keep my career in hand, but I can well understand that with 5 kids, you are well and truly stuck at home for the moment.

I guess you just have to plan for the point where you will break even with childcare and take it from there.

Sorry - didn't realise you had 4 or your dh did shifts. Poor you, must be relentless. x

Totally YANBU - I felt like that towards the end of my maternity leave.

misdee me and you must be the same person, except I am not pregnant again and not planning to be!

I am at the end of my mat leave for child n.4 and tbh I am totally exhausted. I have 4 children under 5 and find it really tiring. And tbh I feel like I have been doing this forever so novelty factor kind of wearing off.....

I also want to be me again and can't wait to go back to work - I will be going back to work full time, with 4 kids - I know it's very very brave but hopefully it will work out. Take care xx

Why did you have so many children if you feel this way?

misdee me and you must be the same person, except I am not pregnant again and not planning to be!

I am at the end of my mat leave for child n.4 and tbh I am totally exhausted. I have 4 children under 5 and find it really tiring. And tbh I feel like I have been doing this forever so novelty factor kind of wearing off.....

I also want to be me again and can't wait to go back to work - I will be going back to work full time, with 4 kids - I know it's very very brave but hopefully it will work out. Take care xx

Bonsoir, i usually dont feel this way. but its been a bad couple of days, with me pulled in all directions, and just exhausted. dd4 has been an utter grump, she was at hospital last week for allergy checks, and i just feel a bit 'meh' atm. got another appointment with dd3 on friday, to check her kindeys and bladder as she has been unwell lately.

just wish i could sometimes just switch off from it all for a couple of hours.

I sympathise. I only have 3, but when the youngest was old enough for childcare voucher thingies I was back to work like a shot. The work is low grade, and the impact on home is that I'm often cooking/cleaning/washing/ironing late into the night because there's little time in the day (I work part time so finish just in time to pick up from school), but I love it.

I love being something other than a mother for a bit.

It will be a while, but your time will come.

Maybe see if you can do some courses at your local college/university, or open studies things. Even join a book group. Something regular that's out of the house is a god send, and may help you when you are in a position to go back to work.

YANBU. I am working five days this week (rare) and can hardly hide my glee. No whining, moaning or crying for five days. Wiping my OWN ARSE ONLY. Incredible.

The only consolation for your current position is, later on, when DCs are in school and even older, when they go on school camp (Yee-har!!!), when you get to go on holiday by yourself etc, you will have a new-found appreciation of the luxury of your freedom that you would never have had before children.

Again, YANBU

thanks all.

feel better today. dh gone into work for 6am, will be there til 2-3pm. i sat and had sleepy cuddles with dd4 and dd3. dd4 seems happier already this morning.