Silent Bullies

[packbell]

How do I handle this if at all?

I been made a social outcast by a group of mums at school, because my ex-best friend has teamed up with them in their clique!

I used to be friends with one of these others mums before, but she turn on me when I made friends with this now ex-friend (very childish I know)!!

Anyway this ex-friend is now really palley with this group of mums and I'm being ignored by several of them! I think she must of told them everything I've ever said about them! Best friends should be able to talk to each other!!

I'm finding it really uncomfortable being around this at school, should I approach these mums and ask them what the problem is or just ignore them in the same way they are ignoring me???

This sort of thing gives females a bad name. Just forget it. Forget them. Don't talk to them. You've got other friends there so you haven't been made a 'social outcast' and none of it matters a damn. Imagine your child outlining the same problem to you - surely you would just tell them not to bother with those people?

women can be bitches packbell

feel sorry for you

cos I can tell its taking its emotional toll on you and some things are not just that easy to forgget about I can understand why you feel agreived

"Even very innocent things can be twisted"

Unfortunately that is true, IngridFletcher. It only takes one person that doesn't like you to take something the wrong way (often deliberately), and suddenly there's bullying (which is what the silent treatment is) from a whole group.

What I don't understand is why people ignore others instead of trying to smooth things over or give others the benefit of the doubt? It's so petty, unkind and selfish. It's rare that the person being ignored will have any clue what it is they're supposed to have done, so it's pointless if it's meant to teach some kind of "lesson".

I would like to thank you all for your comments, I know it is really hard to give advice on the little info you are given!

When my 6 year old says someone has been horrible to her, I always reply with a 'well find someone else to play with' think I need to put that into practice myself!!!

just ignore it. And be careful what you say about people in future!

I really really don't get this school playground stuff. I must be missing something. I leave my daughter into school and collect her daily. I don't get involved with anyone or feel the need. I bother no one, no one bothers me. Seriously rise above it, live your life and frankly let them go fuck themselves!

I echo Mumcentreplus.

Why do so many people get so bothered by this kind of thing?

Do they have any direct influence on your life? Just ignore them.

You should gently ignore them. if they do speak to you, smile and say hello but be really busy.