to think it's odd to be buying baby clothes/furniture when not pregnant?

[MeandMyKid]

Just popped to see a friend that I've not seen for a while as she has new house. She was showing me all the rooms and then took me into the nursery. I started jumping up and down congratulating her and she said, "Oh, I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be for at least 3 more years."

She then went on to tell me that for the last five years she has been buying lots of different baby clothes for both sexes and promptly opened the nursery wardrobe where all the garments were hanging with their tags on.

So I thought she is bonkers or has secretly been trying all these years. But by searching Google I have discovered she is not alone and lots of people (out yourselves please) do it! Now I'm putting my issues into perspective and feeling smuggly normal!

Wont the clothes have dated by then anyway?

Very weird to start buying so many years before actuall even starting TTC.

You could be sympathetic if she hadn't said 'I don't plan to be pregnant for at least three years'

That's just plain odd

OP - does your friend have a partner??

I didn't buy anything baby related until the 11th hour - I didn't want to jinx the pregnancy and most supermarkets are open anyway to get baby stuff 24 hours a day so it wasn't a big deal.

Cannot imagine buying baby garments when not even ttc!! My cousin who is nearly 30 has a doll with a dummy and she cries too if you press a button - very freaky! Grew out of that years ago! Grown woman with a doll..hmm

I'm TTC at the moment and have been tempted. But I'd worry about jinxing my chances! And I'm not normally superstitious!

God, this thread rings so many alarm bells in my head - DH and I have been waiting to start seriously TTC for a couple of years while we got the house sorted.
Just as we thought everything was looking good and we were about to throw out the contraception we have just found out that his job is under threat. It's been such a big shock and just last month I was debating with myself whether it would be weird to start stockpiling nappies and baby wipes etc, as they won't exactly go out of date. Now I feel as if I have 'jinxed' myself. We will not manage on my income alone so now we have to put our plans on hold - so no buying stuff for me!

It would make more sense to start saving money surely? Takes up less space for one thing.

She is not trying. She has had this life plan for years and ticks everything off one by one. I was shocked to see the nursery at first because I couldn't imagine her swaying from the plan. She hadn't of course, but somewhere on the list it must say:

No 534: By baby clothes and nursery items in the Spring sales 3 years in advance.

I do think she's bonkers but I love her. Gosh, she must think my life is chaotic!

It okay to buy baby clothes and things it is normal
Reason people don't tell you about buying baby clothes is because being judged and nasty comment and can be friends or family or strangers who does this

I buy baby clothes and crib and pram and it normal because if think about it there's people who Hoarders and then there is people who buy lots animals ect.

So people need stop saying horrible things and stop judging and be mean and stop saying it mental health because it not mental health at all

Bye for now #keep on buying baby clothes and things for nursery

After wanting a baby for years when I finally got pregnant I was in hysterics when DH tried to buy things as I was convinced there wouldn’t be a baby to take home. Your friend’s way is better I think because most women don’t face difficulties conceiving and she has years to build a perfect little place for her future baby.

I don't know anyone like this . Very strange

Dh would barely let me buy anything during my pregnancies in case, let alone before .

It okay to buy baby clothes and things it is normal

Really? I spent ten years actively ttc and in all that time I never bought anything except for other people’s babies.

We weren't able to have children and we adopted eventually.
I bought one adorable girls baby grow and pink Teddy while we were doing our adoption assessment but that was it until we actually had been matched.
As it happened we adopted a boy first so it was quite a few years later before we adopted our daughter and the baby grow was worn.
It's quite wasteful to buy clothes and equipment for a baby that won't exist for years and may never exist

Just as bonkers as people booking up appointments for wedding dress fittings when they’re not engaged or even in a relationship, but that’s quite common as well.

This thread is 11 years old guys..

Am l the only one that feels bad for this woman?

Either she is desperate for a child or she is ridiculously organised to anal standards.

Eleven fucking years

Wonder if she ever had a kid

@MeandMyKid

I'm considering buying her a "build a bear" so she can get use of the clothes and cot!

I never bought anything until 35 weeks with the first and I bought a vest at 10 weeks with the second. That weekend I bled and vowed never to buy anything until the last minute!

She is being odd but your build a bear comment is really insensitive. There is obviously something going on with her.

Oh god I've just responded to an 11 year old thread. Still...

It’s odd behaviour but I don’t think they should be ridiculed. There is obviously a deep yearning at play and probably some mental health issues. People have different coping strategies and I don’t think it’s that much of a stretch to be able to imagine why someone might do this, as odd as it might seem.

I have known of people buying outfits for their future babies.
Only knew because it did not happen, and the clothes were given away.

LOL how has this happened? Have we travelled back in time?
Pre-covid! I am going out to the busiest shops and pibs this weekend and hugging and kissing all my friends. I may try random strangers!