Was I unreasonable? WOuld you have done the same?

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DH did the bath and bed thing with the DCs as normal last night (7pm) and then apparently had a phonecall and rushed out saying his brother wanted to see him. I assumed he would only be a few hours as B&SIL have a 3 month old baby.

When he RANG my mobile at 2:15 this morning to ask me to unlock the door, i refused and just threw my key out of the window to him and got back in bed.

Apparently i should have known he only had his car key and had no house key and left the door open?!

YANBU. I'd have thrown a wardrobe too.

I would (and have) left him out there and pretended my phone was on silent.

Once I threw him a blanket!

LOL Nesta!

yanbu. He was being totally unreasonable by not keeping in contact with you.

yanbu. what was the problem with throwing the keys down to him.

i would have ignored the phone ringing.

That would be crazy- my aunt got burgled at the weekend when they were in the house because (they think) their son left the door unlocked. And who goes out 'til 2.15am on a Sunday night?

He was out with his brother who has a tiny baby at home- crikey I wonder how SIL greeted her husband

oh good. I thought it was incredibly reasonable given the time!

I answered my phone without looking at the number. I have it on all the time - i miss my alarm otherwise!

The lack of contact doesn't bother me at all its more that he expected me to know that he didn't take his key and had expected me to leave the house wide open.

He's really lucky he's not married to me.

YANBU.

Silver1 - he said he was going to his brothers. I haven;t spoken to him this morning yet. He took the DCs to school and then has disappeared into his 'office' (works from home but it's not part of the house)

what was the emergency with his brother?

what Nesta says.

I don't know booyhoo - but he is probably due a client shorty so will ask him when he comes back in to wait for client.

Not known brother to do that before either.

Coco - Sorry to hear about your aunt

YANBU for not wanting to leave the house unlocked but perhaps YAB a little U for have been so unsympathetic as to throw the key out of the window until you knew what had happened.

Maybe it will turn out to be a social thing and he was being inconsiderate. But it could have been a genuine emergency and he wasn't thinking straight.

Apparently his brother had texted in the week while he was on holiday to get together this w/e. And had texted Sunday day but DH had heard no more until he rang just after the boys had gone to bed. And they were all chatting and hadn't noticed the time as there is no clock

He DID go to his brothers-he brought back some pictures that were taken when we were in oxford with a different brother.

I have no reason to be suspicious just all sounds a bit ... ...

I always seem to go against the grain on these threads but maybe his brother just needed to talk/get out of the house for a while?

It's hard having a newborn isn't it?

No they were IN the brothers house.

that's even nicer I think
You know how quickly time passes when you have a newborn in the house

lol yes i do!

YANBU-unless you are a mind reader!

I guess he doesn´t keep house & car keys together.

seems fine.
why is he taking offence?

He's just generally being an arse i think lol!

YANBU. Of course you should lock up before going to bed. What's wrong in chucking keys out of the bedroom window at 2.15 am? And at least you let him in.

Last year DP put second chubb lock on the front door. A week or so later I was out, he returned home during the day and phoned me irate that I'd locked new chubb lock, he didn't have the key for that one with him, could I come home asap and unlock. Fortunately I was only 10-15 mins walk away so hared home, in blazing heat, to find him fuming on doorstep. I said, why TF did you put second lock on door only to expect me not to lock it and you not have key? Sheepish apology finally proffered.

And he's recently taken to, if going to pub for early evening drink, not taking his door keys at all. So I have to let him in. Not that I'd be going anywhere, but . . . He admitted, the last time, it was vanity as he doesn't want door keys bulging his shirt/trouser pocket!