Selfish Partner of the Day Award.....

[Blackness]

Goes to.....

Surely mine...

I have been up since 5am with DS, DP rises at 9.30, even though it was their turn,(I am too tired was the reaction I got at 5am)they then sit on computer for 2 hours, we have lunch prepared by me, also cleaned up by me.

I then get told by DP they are tired and need to go back to bed (so I am not tired then) DP has a nice afternnon nap, rises, I get on with Tea, once tea is eaten, they agree to tidy up, 2 mins in to tidying up, DP comes into sitting room, they have a headache, and can not continue with cleaning up....

So I proceed to tidy up as well. when I have finished I come into room and there they are sitting on computer...

I am telling you this as to prevent myself from saying something I will regret later!!

GRRRRRRR

imagine his head gradually expanding and then finally bursting- no replacement head. it helps me.

Is that a one off or every weekend?

Yep- your DP wins.
Can you pretend to be poorly tomorrow and spend the day in bed?

YOu are a saint and deserve a nice, relaxing day tomorrow.
YOur DP needs a taste of his own medecine.

I wish i was as restrained as you.

You have my sympathy and support

Why would you regret telling this useless fucker to get out of your house and never come back?

totally agree with sleepy........come down with a mysterious bug (or better still a headache!!) in the morning and turf him out of bed at 5am. It's the only way to make him realise!

No, the only way to make him realise is to talk to him like an adult and tell him that he is totally out of order to be such a lazy parasite.

Also, stop being his skivvy.

One word, I'm afraid. Enabler.

Four words.

I agree with Portia.

Why are we all assuming Blackness's DP is male?

You're right NotQuite there must be women who are this lazy and useless.

Too many hours on MN has taught me that there are a lot of men who feel entitled to all the rest while their women do all the work, but I shouldn't assume that all lazy people are men, even if that's how it sometimes seems.

Well done NotQuiteCockney, I am infact the male species who seems to be married to Mrs Lazy Bones, who beleive it or not is now laying on sofa watching me struggle to get DS ready for bed!!!

I did not say that I was male as I wanted a unbiased view point, and I fear if I had said it was a woman.. the responce wold of been

"ahh she is tired bless her, get on with it you selfish bastard"

because women always do assume lazy partner = man.

OP - if this is a one-off, then just let it go. have your turn tomorrow. If it's a pattern, sit your OH down and tell them how you feel and that it is unfair, and taking the piss and you don't intend to stand for it any more.

I did not assume it was a male.

blackness- forget what has been posted until now. Now you have confessed the terrible sin of Being Male, you will henceforth be Wrong and all posts will now be in support of your partner. Who will be exhausted from looking after the kids and you should do your part.

If I am wrong, I will do the Chicken Dance down the high street, stark naked.

Blackness... are you my dp?

If so, slip us a couple of eggs in the pan as you go by, would you?

Cheers.

Love you.

Get Dancing then Hecate, as I look after DS DP works

Dancing? What dancing? I said nothing about dancing.

I bet we can beat this. We've been at a school fete thing (very small), on the way home there's a car, father is trying to strap a screaming baby into a car seat, little girl (about 2), is left on the path at the side of the road, she then falls over. I stop, her father's still inside the car, ds tells him that his daughter has just fallen over "no she didn't" was the reply. This bloke must be mega useful with eyes at the back of his head, surly he should have put the little girl in the car first whilst the baby was strapped into the buggy? Sorry, I'm being judgy.

And I've stuck this on the wrong thread. Appologies, it's the antihistamines that don't work!

Awww, she's tired bless her, why shouldn't she rest while you skivvy for her?

But seriously, is she ill, pregnant, or working all night to meet a very important deadline?

Why on earth would you put up with that? Even for a day?

My point still stands- can you pretend to be ill and have a restful day tomorrow?

why not ask for a hand with lunch? why not ask for a hand with clearing up? why not say, it was my turn for a lie in , but not only did i not get one, you also took a nap, so tomorrow is my turn>

Saturdays are my turn for a lie in, dh gets Sundays.

Last night our 2 year old woke from a nightmare, took a while to settle him back down, and also I am still feeding the baby in the night. I though, oh, I will let dh sleep, he will be up in the morning, and I will not go kick his snoring oversized head out of the bed to deal with toddler..as I am a lovely wife!

Baby wakes this morning...dh says to me "do you really need me to get up this morning with them as I have a terrible headache"! I was not best pleased...but bless him, I went for an afternoon nap, then he came an woke me as he was going to start dinner.

No point to my story I suppose, other than I would have damn well went for a nap regardless, even if dh had not suggested it, you should do the same!

Is this a one off? or a regular occurrence.

i agree with those that say, if this is normal behaviour then you need to talk to her. why does she think that is ok if you are th eone who is up with him all through the week, shouldn't you also get a lie in at some point?