It's my BF's baby's christening at the weekend, and an excuse for a party afterwards for all the new parents in our old gang. DD is 13 mo, and since she was born DH and I have been out twice together. We fancy a few drinks and a boogie with old pals, I don't mind missing it though if only one of us can go. So I asked mum to babysit, stressing that it was fine if she makes plans for the weekend but let me know one way or the other by Thursday. She said she would. It's a whole day in my house in a town an hour away from her so I am grateful.
Now however, she has heard that a band she likes is playing in my town on that night.
So this is the suggested plan. Her partner and best friend will come to my house. After my sis finishes work she will bundle DD into her smokey car and collect sis to babysit, at DD's bedtime. DD always sleeps in the car and I know that she won't sleep in bed straight after, and after months of sleep deprivation no way am I allowing her routine to be buggered up.
They will go out to the band and stay in mine. I don't have room for mum, her boyfriend, her bestfriend, possibly her boyfriend and my sister. Pound to a penny my drinks press gets a raid too.
AIBU in thinking if I wanted a babysitter who'll bugger up DD's routine, go to a gig, allow her boyfriend and best mate to raid my drinks cabinet and crash in my place, and get someone else to do the actual childminding, I'd just have lasso'd some random teenager outside the high school? I wouldn't have to spend the next 12 months being craven with gratitude to them either.
Yes at least I have a mother.
At least I have a sister to step up (she doesn't know yet that these are her Sat night plans, btw).
Just a rant, but