to think stripclub visits are normal stag do behaviour?

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and wonder why the DP's of others involved have been lied to regarding any stripclub plans?

I dont think they are normal strip club behaviour

only normal if its a Barbary Ape stag do

I agree. We have one in our town, and we have a big conference centre, the strip club is packed with male delegates when a conference is in town.......

My dh has been to a few on stag do's (including his own) I've always known about it and have no issue with it, I even went with him once and it was an education!

I meant NORMAL STAG DO BEHAVIOUR

doh

Bit of a generalisation. Not all men like having money hoovered out of their pockets by gyrating women

Ah but the money hoovering only hapens if you pay for a private dance, you can just pay to get in the club and watch from a distance and it costs no more that a normal club.

doesn't really bother me....would prefer him to go to a strip club than a casino

Well if you're happy to have a dp who treats women as objects and commodities to be bought and sold. Personally if I knew that's the Kind of 'man' my DP was we would e long over by now. Luckily he feels the same way about it as me.

i tend to agree

lets not pretend otherwise!

My husband didnt go to one but he could if he anted to on his stag. We have been to one together and he has been with his mates once. I used to work behind the bar in the place so I went loads of times. I have friends who have had male strippers for the birthdays etc.

When I used to work there we used to always get women down kicking off. We once had one woman who threw herself at the bouncer screaming 'now you have seen another persons boobs what us the point of us being together?'. She was hysterical and screaming, I felt sorry for the poor guy he was just in a group with his mates having a drink and watching the main show. He hadnt even had a private dance! If a man did that to me when I watched a stripper I would run a mile.

Perhaps it is if you are a sad wanker.

You're not being unreasonable, but I think a man going or lying about going when his DP hates the idea is unreasonable.

For my DH's stag do I made it clear that I didn't want that kind of thing. So his friends organised pole dancers to go to them. apparently pole dancers are artists not strippers. Well, my having put my foot down ended up making the situation worse as he became friends with these artists on FB, lied about who they were and having removed them from his friends list, and generally caused a lot of grief.

The reason I don't like it is although not a hideous monster, I am not terribly confident about my body and I know I could never display myself in such a way. If that is what he's after, he's with the wrong woman, and looking for it elsewhere is, in my opinion, infidelity.

i think many men do go....and lie about it too!! even those who pretend to dislike that sort of thing..

I just think it is so sad.

DP is of the same persuasion. He is just a normal bloke, is a builder who likes going out and having a good laugh as much as the next bloke, but thinks that sitting in a dark room pissed up and sweaty leering at 19 year old lithuanian strippers is a sad waste of time. He would rather be in a nightclub astonishing the youngsters with his 80s dancing.

He and his work mates went out a coule of months ago - a load of them went to a strip club (called the Blue Room - how groovy ) and the rest (DP, his brother, and a few of the older ones) went to a club.

He went to strip clubs when he was in his 20s and 30s - he just thinks it is beyond sad now.

My DH would be cringing with embarassment in a strip club. Not all men want an audience when they're aroused. However, DH also doesn't drink, so perhaps that's why he can't imagine sitting in a room full of your mates getting turned on.

Nah.

Dh wouldn't go on a stag do if it involved a strip club. tg

My DP is not of the strip club persuasion, and has avoided the issue on stag dos by leaving early or turning up late (i.e. only doing half a weekend). He just doesn't find that kind of 'entertainment' either titivating nor fun, in fact I think he finds it embarrassing (for him and girls) and the behaviour of the other men as boorish.

It is one of the things I admire about him.

I think among a certain type of men, yes, it is absolutely normal.

The type I'd rather not shag.

I think it is so normal!! Im fine with it to be honest - what Im not fine with is the stories I've heard of stag do's in brothels! Any stag do that goes to Amsterdam and other european coubtries seem to encounter very seedy paces!! My DH recently went to Berlin and said the majority of the men actively saught out brothels, same rumours regarding many 'golf trips'!!

i have been to a few stag nights, and none of them involved a strip club.

I always think a bit of dogging and anal are nice on a stag do. Strip clubs are a bit tame and passe.

Don't know, the last ones I've been on are sten do's (joint hen and stag) which just involved lots of nice meals shopping and drinking.

Some men like strip clubs, some men have been once or twice and wouldn't go again, some are uninterested and some spend an awful lot of time going on about how awful they are. Here's a handy hint, if a man is very critical about strip clubs and the sex industry, approach him with caution. If his criticism centres on the women being 'disgusting' or 'ugly' or 'greedy whores' then do NOT date this man. He's not a caring understanding monogamous male feminist, he's a misogynist.

Yes, it's perfectly normal - for a certain type of bloke, social group, etc.

What I don't get is the types of women who say - 'strip clubs are fine!! What I'm not fine with is brothels'. You clearly have a cut-off point yourself of what you do and don't find acceptable. So why is it so odd that other people also have a cut-off point, even if it's not the same as yours?

I don't have a problem with DH looking at naked women, as I don't have any insecurity issues on that front. But I do have a problem with the bigger picture of stripclubs and what they represent / how they objectify women.

DH was at a stag weekend last weekend and they went out for dinner and then onto a bar where they could chat and wile away the evening.

As I say - stripclubs are perfectly normal for a certain type of bloke...

A number of DH's friends work in high-end banking, when entertaining clients still seems to entail beers and a strip club, apparently. He's been to a few with them but mostly before we met and largely under sufferance - he hasn't been for years - but for some blokes it does seem a standard thing to do. As far as I'm aware none of them ever get up to anything else, and the worst thing is that has happened is one who got fleeced for about £5k one time . Most of them are married with kids now which just makes it icky....