To think my Mum is a Nobhead sometimes?

[LadyBigBra]

Yesterday she banged the door down and woke up the baby marched in and demanded I sort out her facebook and join all sorts of bloody farming and country games so I can be her neighbour.

Today she did the same and woke the baby up again and never asked my dd who is off schooli ll if she is ok and made me find some random singer on frigging facebook.

The we got to chatting about my Gran who has recently become forgetful and started doing dangerous things around the house.

I said "Maybe she will have to come and live with you" to which my Mum replied no she can come to you -you have the time!

I have 5 dc one is a baby and one has sn a partner who is always at work and PND which she knows about I never get a break nobody offers to take my dc for tea or for an afternoon at the weekend yet my Mum always has my dsis children with her.

I also have no room for my Gran and she has a spare room -She does work but only part time and my Dad is on a very good wage (think best part of 800.00 a week) and my Mum fritters it on crap.

I love my Gran but I have a feeling I am going to be guilted into taking care of her 24/7 because I don't go to work.

She is always making snide comments about me not working and sitting on my fat arse at home.

I probbaly am being a bit mean about her but for fucks sake she is a pita sometimes.

Be strong OP - so and on your behalf!

grr what an awful woman!
you need to do best by your gran and that is NOT at your house. im sure you would give her the best care possible, but you cant do that while being a great mum to your DC's too and going through your PND.
[im trying to give you reasons to put your mum off]
basically, start looking for small, well staffed nursing homes. worth asking other people with elderly parents or looking online [how i found a place for my uncle]
the money balances out the intense worry, stress, and cost of having them live with you. [i love my uncle, but he was a danger tohimself with forgetting food cooking, knives etc, and i couldnt have it round my DD's]

and change your locks. and call the police if she doesnt leave. or just scream relentlessly until she leaves. or kill her and bury the body under the patio.

She sounds like a nasty bully, can't she see your work load already, the least she could do is help you. She is making you feel guilty about something she should be doing for her own mum. Don't let her do it to you. Take a firm stand, avoid her for a bit, she will get the message. She obviously has a lot of time on her hands if she can do farming on FB. Assert yourself, gal!

Frankly my dear, your mum is a prick. A nasty one at that.

Let me join the Greek chorus, urging you to murder your mother and free your father....

Just joking, but it probably sounded a nice idea for a moment, given how awful she sounds from your few (of many, no doubt) tales so far.

By the way, how does Gran feel about all of this? Could she be horrified at what her bossy and rude daughter is planning for her? If you think Gran herself is leaning toward your mother's ideas, you have to start issuing dark warnings about how your mother is always in your house, causing a ruckus and being a bully, whereas if she (G) goes to a nice home, she will have a strict matron to stand up for her and throw out or bar unwanted visitors! Tempt her with thoughts of peace and quiet, having a life away from your awful mother....

And what are your bloody sisters doing about all of this? Are they relieved your mother picks on you? If so, they should be ashamed of themselves!

I echo the grrrs rolling round this thread....