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MIL scenario

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LardyMa · 01/07/2010 10:55

OK, so I'm 6 mos pg and have a 2 and a 4 year old. We are invites to FIL's 70th and invited to stay the night. We are told DDs will be in one room and we in the other. I have not been sleeping well and am still working. Turn up, realise all in 1 room. DD age 2 does not sleep AT ALL that night. After not one wink of sleep I go downstairs with her at 4am. Dh sleeps and comes to see me at 7am. He is lovely. We decide we need to go home. He goes off to run errands (mowing the lawn at my parents' house - both had dies within 6 mos of each other the previous year).

My MIL comes downstairs at 10am and tells me that she is going to church and then making lunch and then she will look after the girls for me. I say we need to go home. She says we cannot do so as my dh has not slept. I say that he has slept a little but i have not slept at all. She says that she used to manage on no sleep. I say I must get home. She says that the girls will miss out on seeing familt. I tell her not to be inconsiderate. She says I lack gratitude and respect.

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piprabbit · 01/07/2010 10:59

Of course YANBU. Doesn't sound like you were rude, just stating a fact.

Dropdeadfred · 01/07/2010 11:00

what are you asking?
you were well within your rights to go home...i presume that's what you did?
how was she with your dh when you left?
how do you get on with her normally?

LardyMa · 01/07/2010 11:01

I might have said 'you are so inconsiderate'. The fact is I think she was - and manipulative. I was knackered. I was knackered before the night started. I didn't have to go at all but did so. I didn't complain about all being in one room. This happened some years ago BTW. We have made a truce of sorts but she will slip into this behaviour if she can.

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LardyMa · 01/07/2010 11:06

We did go home. She told all her children that she was devastated by my behaviour. I phoned her up and that was when she told me that I owed her gratitude and respect. She told me I had never said thank you for all the ironing she had done for me. I never bother with ironing anyway and think it a waste of time and I never liked her doing it

I grit my teeth and put up with her but this type of behaviur is repeated in minor ways. I now have 3 dcs and have no time for it quite honestly.

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