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AIBU?

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to be a teensy bit cross with my bf

28 replies

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 15:28

who suggested meeting up this weekend. After much consulting we agreed Sun afternoon was the only possible time and that she and her family would come to our house for lunch (which I would stay home and cook while dh did necessary dc things).

Then she says she is going out Sun night, so could we go there instead? (I had also invited mutual friends for Sun). I said it would be difficult because of dh and dc activities.

Then she suggested that they come Sat night (we are out all day Sat). I said ok, it would have to be a takeaway as not around, but fine, and would they like to stay? (And rearrranged mutual friends for Sat).

No, they can't stay as they are busy Sun, fine, but then she says Sat eve is too late, perhaps she'll leave the dc home. Fine. But then no, they wanted to bring the dc, so can't we meet them earlier? No we can't as busy.

Oh well then, she says, guess we'll have to cancel.

AIBU to be a leetle cross? Or not being very understanding?

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OrmRenewed · 30/06/2010 15:30

Well I think it's six of one and half a dozen of the other honestly. You are both busy.

scurryfunge · 30/06/2010 15:30

Sounds like you have been more than reasonable and flexible....leave it for another weekend.

Flisspaps · 30/06/2010 15:31

YANBU. What a total pain in the arse!

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 15:32

Orm - that is not the right answer. Please try again. It's her that chopped and changed all the time.

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Hullygully · 30/06/2010 15:33
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scurryfunge · 30/06/2010 15:36

I would have apologised profusely for messing you about and sent you a huuuuge bunch of flowers and.......

Herecomesthesciencebint · 30/06/2010 15:36

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Hullygully · 30/06/2010 15:39

I have been extraordinairily kind and polite, but I want to shout, don't fuck me about you raving bloody loon, what are you doing?

But I won't (not till we have an evening on our own and drink too much anyway)

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tinkletinklelittlestar · 30/06/2010 15:50

You are getting this way out of proportion. It is ok to be disappointed and I'm sure your BF is feeling similarly. She is your BF fgs! Don't let this ruin it, you will see each other another time!

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 15:51

We are now emailing antsy one liners.

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notwavingjustironing · 30/06/2010 15:59

It would annoy me. It's hard enough trying to co-ordinate weekends with friends, we've got stuff booked in till the end of August, and I can't swap one thing around without it affecting everything else.

Besides, you were probably looking foward to it so you've every right to feel petulant disappointed.

Let it go, be the bigger Hull/Gull

Jamieandhismagictorch · 30/06/2010 16:03

YANBU

< is scared of the Big Book >

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 16:06

Quite right James. Well done.

Anger is wearing off now. Luckily it never lasts long.

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Jamieandhismagictorch · 30/06/2010 16:10

yes - I noticed only that you were a "teensy bit cross", which is disappointingly mild for an AIBU. Next time, try "incandescent with rage"

Rollergirl1 · 30/06/2010 16:11

How come they are busy on Sunday if they were meant to be seeing you?

OrmRenewed · 30/06/2010 16:19

Well I'm not scared of your BIG BOOK!

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 16:19

She said she hadn't realised she was going to the theatre Sun night. I wanted to say, well bloody well cancel.

But I didn't.

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oiteach · 30/06/2010 16:25

YANBU. How the fuck do you forget you are going to the theatre??

I have a solution. I shall come instead and we will drink wine and you can admire my hairy trucker hands.

Rollergirl1 · 30/06/2010 16:25

Yes but then when you suggest they stay Sat night she replies that she can't as they are busy Sunday, which is when they are meant to be seeing you. Or have I got it wrong?

Jamieandhismagictorch · 30/06/2010 17:05

yy - that's what it looks like

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 19:34

because after we switched to Sat, she switched her sat lunch to sun.

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Jamieandhismagictorch · 30/06/2010 20:00

Weeeell - sounds like you are both very busy, and in possession of a good social life. But I can see it's annoying that she couldn't simply stick to Sunday in the first place.

Hullygully · 30/06/2010 20:51

I admire you James for sticking thus far...
But worry not, I am all serene and moved on and she is WRONG.

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LeninGoooaaall · 30/06/2010 20:56

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Hullygully · 30/06/2010 20:58

I don't have those problems, I honour my commitments because I have manners

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