to NOT go to the DCs 'Sports Day' tomorrow??

[BigMommaOfAlmost4]

Cos no one will talk to me .

I am very shy (although have been told I don't look it ) and can't hang around for 2 hours looking like billy no mates. DH would normally come but can't get time off work and I have no one else to go with me (family all far away). I normally only exchange a nod and a 'morning' with some of the mums, although quite often these same mums don't acknowledge me at all . I used to get quite upset about it but now have got used to it and really don't care, just drop the DCs and run!! I mean the DCs have been going there for 3 years .

I am also 37 weeks pregnant and will probably faint from the heat (could take a deck chair though)!! Really don't want to let the DCs down by not going - would never normally miss any of their events.

They'll remember though won't they when I'm old and incontinent and shove me in a care home because of it ? AIBU?

YABU - if you got kids, you'll have to overcome your shyness sorry. they need you to speak for them.

If it's really really hot the head will cancel the day anyway.

yanbu if you are 37 weeks pregnant! Most Sports Days are in the full sun with nowhere to sit.

If you were not pregnant then I would have encouraged you to go and try starting the conversations with other mothers - they are probably just as shy as you are, and you have nothing to lose by being indiscriminately friendly ;-)

Don't worry about the care home - they'll find some other pretext to do that to you anyway ;-)

Can you maybe go along for the last ten minutes and tell them how proud of them you are? I assume you have to pick them up anyway....

Go

Take deck chair, large bottle of something cold, sit back and look serene!

Keep telling yourself you are watching your DC, its not about being social and you will be fine. Fake confidence is always a winner in these situations too.

Good luck!

FWIW I have similar fears about this sort of thing and yet you would never know it. Lots of people there tomorrow will be feeling exactly the same as you

join the PTA - best thing I did to make friends, becasue even people NOT on the PTA know who we all are

Your sports day is 2 hours?! Charges' sports day was 5 1/

But go!

I ended up talking to loads of parents I never have!

Yes go for half an hour
at drop off tomo morning ask the teacher what time tge running race is so you don't miss that
take lots of fluids so you don't get overheated and a camera
try to chat to just one mum you'll feel so much happier
they'll be other people on their own , the dads are often less cliquey in my experience
report back to us tomorrow xx

I would go. You go to sports day to see your dcs not other parents.

Do as others have said - take deck chair, something to read and a long cold drink. You be like a swan (albeit quite a large one given your stage of pregnancy!) - all serene on the surface but floundering like mad under the water.

I too hate these sorts of things, but it is so important for your DC for you to be there, rooting for them.

For what it's worth, you always come across as an incredibly strong and funny woman on here. If you convey a fraction of that in RL, then you'll be fine.

That was 5 1/2....someone ate the 2

ah poor you

think urself lucky not to be stuck with aload of women boasting about their little darlings making the next olympics

but seriously good suggestion about turning up nearish end,atleast you went and anyway being visibly preggers may make others chat ask if ur ok in heat etc,play the heavly preggers women you may be suprised

like somebody said sure there be others a little shy

Try and enjoy

I know, I know, I AIBU. I SHALL wedge myself in my chair and TRY to look serene MarmMummy.

Thanks all for the virtual kick up the butt!

Rindercella - you've made my day!

I sympathise; last year I spent from 11-4.30 at DS's sports day. One person spoke to me.

This year (same length of day, plus 34 degree heat)I took a book and a pack of cards and taught DS clock patience in the 'picnic time' when the other parents were cliquing about with their deckchairs and cooler bags.

You don't need the other parents; your kids do need you.

11-4.30pm?

Sports day here is 1.40pm - 3pm.

BigMommaOfAlmost4, if I was you I wouldn't go, you are heavily pregnant and the heat is unbearable at the moment.

OMG! I am now insisting charges' change schools to those who have 2 hour sports day!

awww - enjoy - your very big bump will be an absolute conversation opener!

YANBU to not want to go or not be able to go.. but YABU to not go because of 'shyness' if you do actually want to be there.

the thought of these events is always worse than they are. just go. speak to someone, compliment their child, make a nice comment about the weather, anything.. it's not that hard really.

Yabu

I can't take time off from the school where I work to go to dd's sports day
she is so disappointed

and I don't know any other parents as I don't do school runs

I would love to go
you have to put shyness to one side for your children
take a deckchair
they will be so happy to have their mum there to support them

Think that you should go - I went to my DCs and didn't speak to anyone. Your DCs will want you there. Agree that you should take a book and plenty to drink as it is really boring sitting through hours of other peoples kids racing, when your own DCs race lasts about one minute. It is just something that you have to do, unless you are ill

Try to go if you can. know exactly how you feel...no one talks to me either and at school pick up i also just pick up and run. Try to pretend it doesn't bother me, but it does. Tend to just nod at certain mothers but have no idea what their names are. Shyness is crap...other people think you sre just being arrogant....screw them!
Go for your DC s sake....forget the other parents and enjoy the fact that your DC is happy you are there.

Ours was 10 - 3
plus picnic at lunchtime
I still onky went for an hour

have fun op

Go toward the end - my mum never made it to mine, and that never bothered me as a kid, what DID bother me was having to stay at school at the end while all the kids with parents who'd made it were allowed to be taken home slightly early by their folks.

That's the bit I still remember.

surely we can't ALL be going to DC's sports days and being ignored!
Makes you wonder if ANYONE speaks at these things.

Do you have a friend that you could take along with you? When I was on maternity leave with DD I loved going along to my best mate's children's sports day. We had a great giggle and chatted to loads of people. I think it helped that there were two of us.