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to be frustrated and annoyed at the family planning clinic

27 replies

woodlandfaerie · 29/06/2010 20:38

or rather, the woman i saw there today.

I made an appointment over two weeks ago to have the implant fitted. I have had this before, removed last year to have a baby, who I have had, and now want it put back in. The first appt was for today.

I told the woman that I had stopped taking the mini pill the week previously to the tel call i was on. She said she was not sure if I could have the implant fitted on the same day as it was 'advice and counselling session' first, and as I was not on the pill now i would need to do a pg test. I assured her, that it was not possible that I was pregnant (you know, using two young children as a contraception is quite effective ). She said she would book it in, and would call me if there was a problem. She said I did need the advice session regardless, as I had to have blood pressure etc and it might have all changed since last year. She said I needed to abstain from sex until the appt.

So, roll on today, no call to say a problem, but i call to check anyway. Yes, it is fine, all booked in.

Arrived after spending almost 45 mins getting there in traffic, to find that they are running behind schedule, not told this mind you. I waited for 45 mins, before a woman I saw scurrying past me 10 mins before, comes back with a coffee and barks 'woodland? follow me' and marches off faster than I can walk, and with a hot drink!

She gets straight to the point, this is an advice session only. I explained the conversation I had, she looked at her watch and said 'well, there is not really any time, i am pushed as it is, over half an hour behind so far' 'ok, i appreciate that, but i can all the way here to get it fitted' 'it is not a quick procedure, i don't have anything ready for it...so, you say you stopped the pill, ah, see now, there is the problem, you could be pregnant' 'no, i can't be' 'when did you last have sex' around 5-6wks ago. Have you ever missed any? (i stupidly said) the odd one 'oh, well now we can't take any chances, so you will need to come back' 'why? i did not have unprotected sex, I did not have sex when i missed the ones I said, i had been taking it for MONTHS, i would know if I was pregnant by now' blah blah blah.

Cue her producing a pee pot and saying 'book it in with reception, and bring a wee sample' 'can't i do it now?' oh nononono, it needs to be a morning sample' hands me a leaflet and opens the door, and remember you need to abstain from sex till you have it put in.

26th fucking July! I know we are not the most active, but ffs, i would like to be able to consider some action before then at least!

I am quite annoyed, about being messed around, they could have phoned to re-arrange, they confirmed it was booked, they let me wait for 45 mins before telling me it could not be done, then pretended it was because I might be pregnant, when surely i would know that better than them!!!

AIBU to be pissed off? Sorry for the long rant, and i cut it short!

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jybay · 29/06/2010 20:47

YANBU - does your GP surgery do implants? Lots do.

woodlandfaerie · 29/06/2010 20:49

and apparantly, the fact that I am not exclusively breastfeeding due to weaning, also means I am more likely to be pregnant. EVEN with the absence of sex...

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diamondsandtiaras · 29/06/2010 20:56

well it's obvious then.......immaculate conception!! I bow down to you oh holy madonna

YANBU. Ask your GP or try a different clinic.

woodlandfaerie · 29/06/2010 20:57

no, gp don't do implants, they sent me to the fpc. I had it done last time there, all in one go, chat, put it in, thanks very much, by a lovely nurse, then dr.

But now, I am treated like a) I am a thick person who cannot recall if she could be pregnant or b) I am the virgin mary.

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woodlandfaerie · 29/06/2010 20:58

lol x-post diamond no other fpc near by, this is the closest and its a pain to get to right now.

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MrsC2010 · 29/06/2010 20:58

Next time they query it tell them you forgot to mention that you are, in fact, the Virgin Mary and as such they are totally reasonable to test you as there is every possibility you have had another immaculate conception.

woodlandfaerie · 29/06/2010 21:00

it reminds me of when I was pg and had to have anti-d injections as I am RH- blood type. I asked them to test DH so that we knew for sure if I needed it, and they said 'we cannot be 100% sure he is the father' ffs. I should know.

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Flisspaps · 29/06/2010 21:01

YANBU I second going to the GP.

Can you not use condoms in the meantime and then tell the dragon nurse that you've abstained?

BeehiveBaby · 29/06/2010 21:04

It takes 2 weeks to order an implanon at the FPC that I work at, and then the fitting slots are like gold dust. 'tis very frustrating, you're right.

Flisspaps · 29/06/2010 21:05

X-post with your comment about the GP.

And to be pedantic, the immaculate conception was Mary being conceived (in the normal manner) without sin, not the conception of Jesus without sex

I'll be off now!

woodlandfaerie · 29/06/2010 21:16

so, i am not virgin mary? oh well for a moment at least.

fiss *(love your name btw ) might well have to!

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fiveweeksandcounting · 30/06/2010 13:08

YABU I had a very similar conversation with our FPC when I called to make an appointment for a copper coil after DC3. In the end I got an NHS prescription for the coil and paid my gyane £200 for a private appt to fit it which was totally ridiculous but I simply don't have the time to go backwards and forwards for contraception "consultations" and wait around for fittings in the 4 hours a week that they are open.

PeedOffWithNits · 30/06/2010 13:15

Flisspaps - well I never knew that! I have been attending church for 40 years and always thought virgin birth = immaculate (
wihout sex)conception of jesus

bluecardi · 30/06/2010 14:11

How could they say that about not knowing the father of your child 100% - what a annoyance for you.

woodlandfaerie · 30/06/2010 14:57

bluecardi my DH was at that! He almost walked out. I have hard since though that lots of people have been told this in various ways.

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BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte · 30/06/2010 15:35

Re Immaculate Conception: yes, it's about Mary not Jesus.

Re FP people: I can believe it! I once had a GP look at my records which said I wasn't using contraception and then spend ten minutes trying to persuade me to go on the Pill. He didn't think to ask whether I was actually having sex at the time. I wasn't, and was happily single and still entirely a virgin...

kickassangel · 30/06/2010 16:08

so, if it's an angel you do it with, it doesn't count as a sin? suddenly i see a huge loophole in the 'infidelity is wrong' argument - 'but she/he was an angel, so it's allowed'

i always thought that the angel appeared to mary, and popped the baby in there without any sex happening.

pippop1 · 30/06/2010 16:14

When I was pg with my second child I was asked if I wanted a Tay Sachs test ( a genetic disease common to a certain group of people).

I explained that my husband and I had been tested before conceiving our 1st child and neither were carriers of that nasty gene.

N.B both parents need to be carriers for the child to have the chance of being affected, although the gene can be passed on by a carrier to the next generation, it's only when both parents are carriers does the disease have a one in four chance of being passed on.

The midwife wrote down on my notes. Mother refuses to have Tay Sachs test. I was furious.

LifeOfKate · 30/06/2010 16:27

YANBU, although you do need to learn to lie to HPs when necessary

"Oh, yes nurse, I was taking my mini-pill religiously, no nurse, I have not had sex since we last spoke, oh no no no "...

mamalovesmojitos · 30/06/2010 16:37

yes kickassangel - mary's was the immaculate conception, conceived the natural way by her parents but created without original sin. mary conceived jesus without sex - the virgin conception. or so they say

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 30/06/2010 16:43

mamalovesmojitos so how was she created without original sin? And so Mary didn't shag the angel? Genuinely interested....

(sorry for thread hijack)

porcamiseria · 30/06/2010 16:43

err use a condom? annoying I know but c'est la NHS

foreverastudent · 30/06/2010 17:03

no wonder so few people use long-term contraceptives!

why do they do all these checks with the implant but not for the combined pill? Surely, having more and stronger hormones, it would do more damage than having an implant?

woodlandfaerie · 30/06/2010 20:58

porcia I was told, by the nurse, that no sex at all was the only way to ensure i was not pregnant

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sterrryerryoh · 30/06/2010 21:56

Woodland - I have an adopted son - and even though DH and I are BOTH infertile, and had spent 10 years TTC and had 3 failed attempts at IVF, we still had to promise to use condoms after we?d been approved ?just in case? - ha!

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